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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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My embarrassing day

ye me and my 2 friends went to my crush and I told him J liked him tben ran away I cane back and my friend told me he...

What my friend said

So ive been incecure about my body since forever and i started getting better and better and until a few weeks ago i ...

i feel ashamed

hi sam, i am 15 and a lesbian and i feel really ashamed. whenever people bring up gay people it makes me feel uneasy ...

Intrusive thoughts

Hi Sam, Recently i’ve been worried about something that I know doesn’t matter but i keep thinking about it. Basically...

Help

i havent been doing great ive been crying all night something stopping me from asking for help do you have suggestions

How do u cope

my mum is horrible and never loved me etc and now i don't know how to cope i get so attached to any adult figure that...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything you want and I read every single message sent. I can only reply to a few each week and I always do this in public on my page. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but it’s likely there are others just like it that I have answered before. If you want a definite response or need support then talking to a Childline counsellor is the best way to do that.

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Pressuring into sex

Me and my boyfriend had started having sex and at first we would only do it when we both wanted to but now if I say I...

Feeling pressured

There is a boy that i really like and every girl that he has been out with he has had sex with. I know that if i go o...

what can i do??

hi sam , im S* and my boyfriend is L*. im 14 and hes turning 15 soon. we've had an on and off relationship for the la...

sex

dear sam my boyfriend keeps pressuring me to have sex with him and we're both only 13! i don't want to but i really ...

sex

Hi, i really want to ask someone out and have sex with them. im 13, but i dont care about the law. but how do you hav...

Long distance

I understand this isn't this weeks topic but I'd really like to have an opinion on this situation and I'm too shy to ...

Contraception

Hi Sam, Me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for the last half year of our year and a month of being togeth...

I feel pressurised

Hey Sam, There is this boy at school who I'm good friends with, and he says that he 'fancys' me & has since the ...

Sex/relationship

My & my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months he wants sex & I kind of do too. I'm 15. We have been on ...

Sexual abuse

This guy I have been seeing since I was 15 is 20 years old and I used to go and see him on a Saturday and then one da...

Help:(

A few weeks ago a boy asked me to send him a picture of me in my underwear. I sent him one, and asked if he deleted i...

Is it wrong?

I know you will probably be responding to more important emails, but.. Im 14, and about a year and a half ago i start...

Should I risk him for sex?

Hey sam, I'm having a tough time deciding something. There is this boy i really like and i know he really likes me an...

Depressed

Dear Sam, in march 2015 a boy started to talk to me on snapchat. I didn't like him for a long while in that way, but...

Religion ruined us

So my boyfriend broke up with me on Thursday and a few days later he finally explained why. He said God spoke to him ...

should i break up with him?

Hey sam. Me and this boy have been dating about 3 weeks and i dont know. Everything feels wrong to do with him and we...

How I feel

So, I'm feeling upset at home. I like school because I get to see my friends. Home is boring. When I'm at home, I''m ...

Getting over crushes

Hi Sam, For about a year now I have had a crush on this boy. There have been moments where we have gotten on really w...

People

over all I think I am a good person. But there is one thing on my mind... dear Sam, there is this boy, we have bee...

I don't know what to do

I'm really confused and I don't know what to do because I am going out with someone but I don't love him anymore nd I...

How to end this relationship

Dear Sam, I'm going out with this girl that had a history with self harming and still has urges but I don't like her ...