Hi there,
Its good to hear from you and Im glad youve got in touch.
It sounds like you have a lot of questions about sex and relationships. Its great that youre asking these questions, as its really important to know as much as you can about healthy sex and relationships before you make any decisions.
I can hear that you know the law says you should wait until you are 16 before having sex. Some young people do have sex before this age, but the average age that people have sex for the first time is actually 16. Having sex involves physical and emotional risks. Doing this before 16 can leave people with different feelings. Its always important to make sure youre ready and comfortable with the person you want to have sex with.
The Brook and NHS websites both have lots of information about sex, your body and sexual health. They will give you some of the specific answers that you are looking for.
There is also information about sex and relationships in Explore and on the message boards.
Youve asked about how to ask a guy for sex and where to go to have sex. These are more personal questions, and things that you and he should think about together. Its important to feel like you can trust the person you are having sex with. If you do decide to have sex it is good to find a place that is comfortable and private. Its also really important to think about keeping yourself safe. Using the right contraception will help you protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. Your emotional safety is also very important. You need to be sure that the person you are with will respect you and will not make you do anything you dont want to.
If youd like to talk more then you could get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor and they could talk with you about how youd like things to be. You can get in touch with a counsellor through the talk section of the website and log in for a 1-2-1 chat or you could ring on 0800 1111 for free (It wont show up on any phone bills.)
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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