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Hi there,
Thanks for writing to me, it sounds as though youre feeling bad about the number of people that you have had sex with and that you feel that some of the people that you have had sex with have used you. It also sounds like people have bullied you by calling you names because of the sexual relationships youve had.
Its never OK for anyone to bully you for any reason. Im wondering if there is an adult you trust, like a teacher, parent or guardian who you could tell about the bullying.
Whilst the legal age for a young person to have sex is 16, some people do find that they think about and feel ready to have sex at a younger age. If you do decide to have sex with someone again, its important that you feel safe and comfortable doing so and that you and the person you choose to do this with both give your consent (permission) for this to happen. The Brook website has lots of information about sex, relationships and how to stay safe.
It sounds as though youve been really hurt in the past and perhaps ChildLine could support you with what youve experienced. Its also important that you know that you dont have to share your sexual experiences with anyone you dont feel comfortable with or trust. You can talk this through with a ChildLine counsellor by calling 0800 1111 or logging on for a 1-2-1 chat. They will listen, not judge and help you get a better understanding of your situation and what you would like to happen.
Take care,
Sam
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