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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
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  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I said something racist

I called someone the N-word as a joke and now I'm in serious trouble I don't know what to do because I'm not a racist

Privacy in care

Hey Sam, I'm a 17 year-old girl and I live in a children's home. Like most teens I have a lot of sexual thoughts and ...

Emotionally abused by my mum

hi Sam, i was emotionally abused by my mum for years, it left me with no confidence,no self-esteem and no self-image,...

abuse

my mum always pulls my hair and shakes me and trys to throw me down the stairs

Deafness & Abuse

Hiya Sam, I'm 12 years old and i am Deaf. I lost my hearing completely when i was 7 years old. Although it was a big ...

Message from Sam

Friends are important and should be there for us when we need them. Sometimes our friends can let us down or not act the way they should. I know some people struggle knowing how to make friends as well. I'd be happy to give advice about all kinds of friendship problems in the next couple of weeks.

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Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

Dealing with PTSD

Hi Sam, I was sexually assaulted for 2 years as a child by my best friends dad at sleepovers and I'm struggling with ...

Am I relapsing?

Hi Sam, ​ I've struggling with disordered eating for about 5 or 6 years now with my weight fluctuating from underweig...

Extreme fear of haircuts

Hi Sam, I am 17 and I am ashamed to say that I have a severe fear if getting haircuts, to the point I haven’t had one...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Eating Problems.

Hello Sam, For such a long time I have felt over weight and fat, I've never been self confident and after things chan...

Sleeping

im finding it rly diffcult to sleep atm as everytime i sleep i feel trapped n i see a image of a room just filled wit...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

I tried to make myself vomit

i really want to be thin. i tried to make myself vomit a few weeks ago, and did it again today. i know i shouldnt do ...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Friend wants to commit suicide

hi, my best friend is having a few issues at the moment and has taken it apon herself to commit suicide... i have no ...

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...

I feel scared when I go to bed

Every night I feel scared before going to bed, after all these bad things happening I always think up scary theories...

Work experience and the phone

Hello, ​ I have work experience coming and am hoping to become a vet. I have anxiety, especislly when it comes to tal...

Growing up

Dear Sam, I'm going to turn 18 in a few weeks and I'm really worried about it. I still feel like a child and I'm worr...

Bereavement.

My best friend passed away when I was 13; we were very close. She was buried in a cemetery near where she lived. I've...