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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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Afraid and scared of war

hi sam, im really scared of war. all i see nowadays is headlines about the rising world tensions and it feels like i ...

Feeling left out

I have low confidence and my friends are outgoing people. Sometimes I feel left out because they are all laughing and...

Discrimination in Sports

To Sam At school, i came out as gay and now when we play football or anything that involves people picking teams, i a...

Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

Message from Sam

There can be a lot of pressure to fit in around friends – pressure to do certain things or be a certain way. I'd be interested in hearing about problems you're having with peer pressure from friends in the next couple of weeks.

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Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Fear of being sick

Hi Sam, ​I've had this phobia for 3 years now, and I don't know what to do. I can't stand anyone throwing up or me th...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

Dealing with PTSD

Hi Sam, I was sexually assaulted for 2 years as a child by my best friends dad at sleepovers and I'm struggling with ...

Am I relapsing?

Hi Sam, ​ I've struggling with disordered eating for about 5 or 6 years now with my weight fluctuating from underweig...

Extreme fear of haircuts

Hi Sam, I am 17 and I am ashamed to say that I have a severe fear if getting haircuts, to the point I haven’t had one...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Eating Problems.

Hello Sam, For such a long time I have felt over weight and fat, I've never been self confident and after things chan...

Sleeping

im finding it rly diffcult to sleep atm as everytime i sleep i feel trapped n i see a image of a room just filled wit...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

I tried to make myself vomit

i really want to be thin. i tried to make myself vomit a few weeks ago, and did it again today. i know i shouldnt do ...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...