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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

arguing i can hear next door

hi I was wondering what should I do if I can hear two parents arguing almost every day in front of their children? th...

1-2-1 Counsellors

Hi Sam, I was just wondering how likely is it that someone will talk to the same counsellor twice if they go to chat ...

Messed up my GCSE's.

​ Hi Sam, ​ I've just completed my GCSE's and when I got the results back I was so shocked because they were so awful...

Being in a wheelchair

Dear sam i have been in a wheelchair since I was 11 because I was knocked by a car and lost both of my legs and have ...

Shaving

Hi Sam, i am ten years old, but I feel like I need to start shaving. My mum says that she is going to tell me about g...

In love with a celebrity

Dear Sam I have started becoming really obsessed with the lead singer of my favourite band. I keep stalking her socia...

Message from Sam

Going back to school can be a nervous experience for some people. It might be the start of something new for you or it could mean going back to a place where you struggle with other issues like bullying. I'd like to hear from anyone who has worries about going back to school.

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Different sex drives

dear sam. My girlfriend just moved in with me but each night she wants sex and each morning she wants sex. At first i...

I don't love my boyfriend

Hi Sam, Recently I got myself into a relationship with this amazing boy, we've only been together a week but have bee...

Sexual abuse online

When i was 9 someone sent me drawn porn and then forced me to write sexual things in return. does this count as sexua...

Removing photos online

I was on a random chat site and the person told me to do inappropriate things on camera, then they screenshotted me...

Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

The law

Hello Sam, just a quick question is it against the law to get fingered at the age of 13 this happened to me and i did...

Blackmail

Hi, my ex is blackmailing me if I don't send things to him. He says he will send pictures to my sisters and to a boy ...

Interracial Relationship

Hi Sam, My girlfriend lives in the south of England and I live in the Midlands yet she sometimes visits my city when ...

My deaf friend

Hi sam, I have a deaf friend. She wasn't always deaf because she was my best friend ever since I was little but after...

Bed wetting

Dear Sam, i am 13 years old and have been a bed wetter since I was 8. The doctors have found nothing wrong with me af...

My friend needs a Saviour

My friend has been cutting for a while. I have no clue what to do. I’ve given her everything I could. I feel useless.

Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

I have had sex with a girl and am worried that she is pregnant. I love her but don't want a child. do I pressure her ...

Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...