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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you.

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Bereavement.

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job interview

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Contraception

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Message from Sam

Lots of people are unhappy with the way they look. For some people, it can become a real problem. I’d be really interested in hearing from anyone who has an issue with their body and how that affects your feelings.

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Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

The law

Hello Sam, just a quick question is it against the law to get fingered at the age of 13 this happened to me and i did...

Blackmail

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Interracial Relationship

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I slept with my best mates girlfriend

hi, I was at a party last weekend but all I remember from it is having sexual intercourse with my best mates girlfrie...

My deaf friend

Hi sam, I have a deaf friend. She wasn't always deaf because she was my best friend ever since I was little but after...

Bed wetting

Dear Sam, i am 13 years old and have been a bed wetter since I was 8. The doctors have found nothing wrong with me af...

How do I tell my parents we broke up?

So a few days ago, I broke up with my boyfriend. My parents did know about the relationship, but now that it's over, ...

My friend needs a Saviour

My friend has been cutting for a while. I have no clue what to do. I’ve given her everything I could. I feel useless.

Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

I don't want any friends anymore.

Hi Sam, I just want to ask you for some advise. I have a few friends but I really don't like them, I am O.K with one ...

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

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Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

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Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

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Getting contraception

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