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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...

Acholism (my mum)

my mum has acholism and depresion my dad is mentally ill and left us when i was eight i am now ten. she is a nice per...

Summer Holiday Worries

Hey Sam, I have some worries about the Summer Holidays. I mean yeah, it's great to have a break from school, as I fin...

I'm being stalked

Theres this man that has been stalking me since i was 10 (i am 13 now) im really scared to tell anyone, what should i...

Sexual abuse online

When i was 9 someone sent me drawn porn and then forced me to write sexual things in return. does this count as sexua...

I feel scared when I go to bed

Every night I feel scared before going to bed, after all these bad things happening I always think up scary theories...

Masturbation

Is masturbating bad because i feel like im the olny person who does it. Also is it the same feeling you get when you ...

Message from Sam

As we get to the long summer holiday, this can be good for some people but bad for others. Being away from school might mean getting away from bullying or stress, but for some people being at home is worse than being at school. I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who is worried about what the summer is going to be like.

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Sexual abuse online

When i was 9 someone sent me drawn porn and then forced me to write sexual things in return. does this count as sexua...

Removing photos online

I was on a random chat site and the person told me to do inappropriate things on camera, then they screenshotted me...

Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

The law

Hello Sam, just a quick question is it against the law to get fingered at the age of 13 this happened to me and i did...

Blackmail

Hi, my ex is blackmailing me if I don't send things to him. He says he will send pictures to my sisters and to a boy ...

Interracial Relationship

Hi Sam, My girlfriend lives in the south of England and I live in the Midlands yet she sometimes visits my city when ...

My deaf friend

Hi sam, I have a deaf friend. She wasn't always deaf because she was my best friend ever since I was little but after...

Bed wetting

Dear Sam, i am 13 years old and have been a bed wetter since I was 8. The doctors have found nothing wrong with me af...

My friend needs a Saviour

My friend has been cutting for a while. I have no clue what to do. I’ve given her everything I could. I feel useless.

Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

I have had sex with a girl and am worried that she is pregnant. I love her but don't want a child. do I pressure her ...

Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...