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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

My mom needs a divorce

My mom is currently married to an alcoholic man. He's a good person when he's not drunk but thats not often anymore. ...

Can’t sleep

Hi Sam, this has been happening for at least a year now, but I‘ve been struggling to sleep when i go to bed every nig...

Dog Phobia

Dear Sam, I have always been scared of dogs. I run when they are near and they chase me. I have been injured by a dog...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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First Kiss

Hi samwell ive been going out with my boyfriend for ages but we havent kissed. i really want to and i think he does t...

racist parents :-|

Hi Sam,  Here's the story: I'm white and I have been crushing on a black guy for a long time. Then, he asked me out....

I feel lonely (~gay~)

Even though at the moment I'm making a lot of new friends, hanging out with old ones as well, got past my depression,...

I'm 15, he's 23

For the past 3 years I have been going to a drama group in my area. This is the place that I am at my happiest. I lov...

He hits me wen drunk

Ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years. it seems like everytime he drinks he turns nasty to me says he cant re...

My boyfriend is controlling

My boyfriend says that he gonna get me pregnant and says my body is his and to make sure that i wont leave him hes go...

Girl is 16, boy is 14

Dear Sam, my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 6 months now. I am 16, and he is only 14! Most people thi...

age difference

my friend has started to like a 18yr old (she's 14) he likes her too and to be honest he's a really nice guy and he i...

Being a girl sucks :(

Hey sam, please reply i'm 14 and i don't really have any hobbies. i want to learn to skateboard really bad, i watch ...

Whats best for me

Hey Sam, So similar to many of these letter im 17, 18 in around a month but have always been described as an 'old so...

Sex.

Me and my girlfriend were considering having sex, I'm 16 and she's just turned 15, we have been talking for a while a...

Boys

This boy is nearly 18 and I'm 13 we have been friends since I was about 8 and recently he has started to call me beau...

I'm 17, he's 31.

I recently met a guy at a party and I got talking to him through my brother who is roughly a few years younger than h...

I'm 16. He's 24

I'm 16 years of age and I started talking to a 24 year old from a social media app called Instagram. I've known him f...

Abused by boyfriend

Warning: This letter contains sexual content or information that some people may find upsetting – remember that you c...

He's older than me

I'm thirteen years old and I've been dating a boy for over a month. We started dating on the third of may. He's seven...

I'm 16 and he's 21

Basically the guy I really like has problem with the age gap between us and I think that's the barrier to stoping the...

Long distance ?

Hi Sam, you see I met this guy on an Anime chat site 7 a while ago sometime last year and well hes 16 now and im 14 w...

In love with my teacher

Hiya I'm 15 near 16 and I'm totally in love with my science teacher he is only 22 and he's perfect we flirt in a secr...