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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I don’t know how to feel

I was raped by my partner of 4 years he was remanded for 4 months but was found not guilty at trial since then I was ...

Suicide in a game

Hi Sam, Recently I have been playing a video game and there is a character in it called Kate. She gets bullied and tr...

Young Carers

Hi Sam im a young carer and i have been getting very stressed and i at home i live with my mum and grandma. When i ge...

Body image

i feel really disgusting about my body and i am definitely not body positive can you help ?

Anxiety at school

hi sam. i have anxiety. my guidance teacher gave me a card that i show to my teachers and they would allow me to leav...

Masturbation

hi im 12 and i feel disgusting if i masterbate but i cant stop myself from doing this i watch porn sometimes but i fe...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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I feel like Im losing him

Hi Sam I need your help, I am 16 soon and my boyfriend is 18. We have been together over two years and a lot has ha...

Flirting

I really really love this girl and she says she likes me the same way but she starts flirting and getting closer to o...

Hi Sam

Over the past few months I have been kinda confused on if I like boys or girls. I have been with boys before however ...

Coming out

Ok i can admit i am a lasbian only because you dont know me but i cant be that obvious to people who do know me and i...

Boyfriend

Hello..I just wanted to ask if you say no to sex and try to get your partner off you,is that still rape even though y...

Abuse

You said that you would like to hear from anyone who has been abused in a relationship so I thought I'd share my stor...

My boyfriend...

What's the definition of abuse? My boyfriend gets angry at me all the time and he nor me know why... He hits me occa...

I like him..

so theres this guy, we like each other and were ready to date etc but there was one thing from stopping us..The fact ...

The Boy Really Likes Me...

Dear Sam, I'm 12... The thing is, is that there's this boy and he really likes me... I didn't know him that well, we...

jealous

Is it right for me to get really jealous over my girlfriend, i give her freedom and all that. i do trust her not to c...

Distance

Hi Sam!  Well, i met a boy online around 6 months ago; a lot of relationships start online these days haha. But yeah,...

Blackmail

My ex bf is blackmailing me to have sex with him or he said he will tell everyone what I've been texting him I told h...

school and relationships

hello im a 15 year old girl and i have been going out with this boy for about 4 months now and he spends time with me...

Online Boyfriend

Hi Sam, I dont really know where to start from here, but I have an online boyfriend and for about 5 weeks we have be...

First Kiss

Hi samwell ive been going out with my boyfriend for ages but we havent kissed. i really want to and i think he does t...

racist parents :-|

Hi Sam,  Here's the story: I'm white and I have been crushing on a black guy for a long time. Then, he asked me out....