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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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Finding out I had an other dad

on the 1st of june 2018, I got an message over social media from a boy around the age of 21 practically telling me I ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Failed my GCSE's

Hey Sam, I just wanted to say that I failed my GCSE's and didn't get the grade I needed to in order to do what I want...

School loneliness

Hi Sam, I’ve never done one of these before but here it goes. I’m in year 11 at school and I have no friends at all a...

Message from Sam

It can be hard to spot the signs of an abusive relationship, even when you’re in the relationship yourself. I’d be really interested in hearing about harmful relationships in the next few weeks. Remember that I only respond to a few letters each week but I do read all of them.

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My boyfriend...

What's the definition of abuse? My boyfriend gets angry at me all the time and he nor me know why... He hits me occa...

I like him..

so theres this guy, we like each other and were ready to date etc but there was one thing from stopping us..The fact ...

The Boy Really Likes Me...

Dear Sam, I'm 12... The thing is, is that there's this boy and he really likes me... I didn't know him that well, we...

jealous

Is it right for me to get really jealous over my girlfriend, i give her freedom and all that. i do trust her not to c...

Distance

Hi Sam!  Well, i met a boy online around 6 months ago; a lot of relationships start online these days haha. But yeah,...

Blackmail

My ex bf is blackmailing me to have sex with him or he said he will tell everyone what I've been texting him I told h...

school and relationships

hello im a 15 year old girl and i have been going out with this boy for about 4 months now and he spends time with me...

Online Boyfriend

Hi Sam, I dont really know where to start from here, but I have an online boyfriend and for about 5 weeks we have be...

First Kiss

Hi samwell ive been going out with my boyfriend for ages but we havent kissed. i really want to and i think he does t...

racist parents :-|

Hi Sam,  Here's the story: I'm white and I have been crushing on a black guy for a long time. Then, he asked me out....

I feel lonely (~gay~)

Even though at the moment I'm making a lot of new friends, hanging out with old ones as well, got past my depression,...

I'm 15, he's 23

For the past 3 years I have been going to a drama group in my area. This is the place that I am at my happiest. I lov...

He hits me wen drunk

Ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years. it seems like everytime he drinks he turns nasty to me says he cant re...

My boyfriend is controlling

My boyfriend says that he gonna get me pregnant and says my body is his and to make sure that i wont leave him hes go...

Girl is 16, boy is 14

Dear Sam, my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 6 months now. I am 16, and he is only 14! Most people thi...

age difference

my friend has started to like a 18yr old (she's 14) he likes her too and to be honest he's a really nice guy and he i...