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My nan and Alzheimer's

So, My nan has Alzheimer's and I get really down because she can't remember me or my dad. and I don't know how to cop...

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Hello I’m gonna make this short and sweet I like alcohol a lot And although I don’t drink too much as I’m only thirte...

mental health in school

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Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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He hits me wen drunk

Ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years. it seems like everytime he drinks he turns nasty to me says he cant re...

My boyfriend is controlling

My boyfriend says that he gonna get me pregnant and says my body is his and to make sure that i wont leave him hes go...

Girl is 16, boy is 14

Dear Sam, my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 6 months now. I am 16, and he is only 14! Most people thi...

age difference

my friend has started to like a 18yr old (she's 14) he likes her too and to be honest he's a really nice guy and he i...

Being a girl sucks :(

Hey sam, please reply i'm 14 and i don't really have any hobbies. i want to learn to skateboard really bad, i watch ...

Whats best for me

Hey Sam, So similar to many of these letter im 17, 18 in around a month but have always been described as an 'old so...

Sex.

Me and my girlfriend were considering having sex, I'm 16 and she's just turned 15, we have been talking for a while a...

Boys

This boy is nearly 18 and I'm 13 we have been friends since I was about 8 and recently he has started to call me beau...

I'm 17, he's 31.

I recently met a guy at a party and I got talking to him through my brother who is roughly a few years younger than h...

I'm 16. He's 24

I'm 16 years of age and I started talking to a 24 year old from a social media app called Instagram. I've known him f...

Abused by boyfriend

Warning: This letter contains sexual content or information that some people may find upsetting – remember that you c...

He's older than me

I'm thirteen years old and I've been dating a boy for over a month. We started dating on the third of may. He's seven...

I'm 16 and he's 21

Basically the guy I really like has problem with the age gap between us and I think that's the barrier to stoping the...

Long distance ?

Hi Sam, you see I met this guy on an Anime chat site 7 a while ago sometime last year and well hes 16 now and im 14 w...

In love with my teacher

Hiya I'm 15 near 16 and I'm totally in love with my science teacher he is only 22 and he's perfect we flirt in a secr...

I lied and it was illegal

I'm 14 (although i'm 15 next week) and I met a lad a concert about two months ago who is 19 (it was his birthday when...

Hdb

Hi im not sure what to i've started talking to older boys&men it makes me feel better because of rverythig else a...

Sam, I'm a liar

I've been talking to this guy whose 17. When we first started talking I told him i was 14 (I'm actually 13). I told h...

seeing a married man

hi sam, im 17 and i really do like this guy i am seeing, hes 40, has children and is married. I feel bad and guilty a...

Teacher and me

I'm writing to tell you that I am in need of help as I am in love with my teacher whom I think likes me as well, we a...

Love my Teacher of 24

Hi Sam, I know you must get a lot of letters on this topic but I really am feeling at a loss of what to do. I'm 16, n...