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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

School and me

First day back at school was horrible people laughed at me threw the hallways and called me fat. ive cut myself befor...

Homelessness

Ive been homeless since I was 15. I'm now 18. I've been stayin on sofas and sometimes on park benches or in the town ...

My mum always hits me

Dear Sam ​ My mum always hits me even when its a sall thing like i have forgotten to wash my face, she pulls my hair ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Pressure about doing piano

Hi Sam i have been doing piano for a couple of years now but I am really bord of it and music isn't really my passion...

Message from Sam

Food is a part of life for us every day, but for some people this is a real problem. I’d be really interested to hear from you if you’re having problems with eating or your body image.

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My boyfriend...

What's the definition of abuse? My boyfriend gets angry at me all the time and he nor me know why... He hits me occa...

I like him..

so theres this guy, we like each other and were ready to date etc but there was one thing from stopping us..The fact ...

The Boy Really Likes Me...

Dear Sam, I'm 12... The thing is, is that there's this boy and he really likes me... I didn't know him that well, we...

jealous

Is it right for me to get really jealous over my girlfriend, i give her freedom and all that. i do trust her not to c...

Distance

Hi Sam!  Well, i met a boy online around 6 months ago; a lot of relationships start online these days haha. But yeah,...

Blackmail

My ex bf is blackmailing me to have sex with him or he said he will tell everyone what I've been texting him I told h...

school and relationships

hello im a 15 year old girl and i have been going out with this boy for about 4 months now and he spends time with me...

Online Boyfriend

Hi Sam, I dont really know where to start from here, but I have an online boyfriend and for about 5 weeks we have be...

First Kiss

Hi samwell ive been going out with my boyfriend for ages but we havent kissed. i really want to and i think he does t...

racist parents :-|

Hi Sam,  Here's the story: I'm white and I have been crushing on a black guy for a long time. Then, he asked me out....

I feel lonely (~gay~)

Even though at the moment I'm making a lot of new friends, hanging out with old ones as well, got past my depression,...

I'm 15, he's 23

For the past 3 years I have been going to a drama group in my area. This is the place that I am at my happiest. I lov...

He hits me wen drunk

Ive been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years. it seems like everytime he drinks he turns nasty to me says he cant re...

My boyfriend is controlling

My boyfriend says that he gonna get me pregnant and says my body is his and to make sure that i wont leave him hes go...

Girl is 16, boy is 14

Dear Sam, my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 6 months now. I am 16, and he is only 14! Most people thi...

age difference

my friend has started to like a 18yr old (she's 14) he likes her too and to be honest he's a really nice guy and he i...