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Im loosing my best friends

I have recently moved schools, because i moved house for the 5th time! and i cant help but feel like im loosing my best friends to each other...they have become such good friends they dont even invite me to do stuff anymore.

I invited them both over to mine about a week or two ago, and we had fun but all they talked about was things they have done together, and i couldnt help but feel left out.

I have talked to them about how i feel like they are leaving me out and not really paying much attention to me, but they dont really have much to say. And on facebook i was looking at one of their albums, and they both commented on one and she said to her "me and you will have to go to the beach together in the holidays!" and the other said "yeah and my dad is off work for two weeks so you will have to come with us too!"

but the thing is i said when they were over that we should all go to the beach one day and they were like yeah yeah! and now its like they have taken my idea and left me out of it...It really upsets me...but i live like 30 mins away..what do i do? :( xxx

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Hi there,

Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like it’s been a really unsettling time for you, having to move so many times and having to get used to a new school.

It really hard for me to tell you what you should do, because it sounds like it’s a really tricky situation. From what you say, it seems like Facebook has been a good way for you and your friends to keep in touch, even though you live so far apart now. Maybe you could comment on their album, or even just ask them if you can go with them to the beach.

Maybe as well as keeping in touch with your old friends on Facebook, you could also try getting to know the people in your new school. Perhaps you could also see what sorts of things you could do in your local area, and get to know more people that way. 

There are more ideas and suggestions about Friendships in Explore that you may find helpful. You can also see what other young people are saying on the Friends message board. If you sign up for an account you can reply to others or even start you own thread.

If you find this is still worrying you, remember you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor. You can call us for free on 0800 1111 or log in for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care, 


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