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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I need my first bra

Hi Sam, I’m 13- almost 14 and I think it‘s time to ask my mum for a bra but I’m too nervous and I don’t know how to b...

The Summer Holidays!

Hi Sam! I wanted to ask what I can do during the holidays to keep myself sane? The last summer holidays was hell for ...

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Family

Since my parents found out I lost my virginity I've had to go to some health clinics because of unprotected sex which...

Peer Pressure

Hi Sam, Recently my friends have been trying to get me to do things I'm uncomfortable with such as smoking weed, vapi...

Feeling left out

I have low confidence and my friends are outgoing people. Sometimes I feel left out because they are all laughing and...

Friendships and depression

Hey whoever's reading this, I don't normally do things like this and i feel like i shouldn't be wasting peoples time ...

Condoms for 13 year olds

Hi Sam, Ok so basically i am 14 and my girlfriend is also 14...we both want to have sex and i know its technically il...

My Manipulative Best Friend

Hey Sam, I have a 'best friend' at school who is quite manipulative. I met her a year and a bit ago, in my previous s...

I don't love my boyfriend

Hi Sam, Recently I got myself into a relationship with this amazing boy, we've only been together a week but have bee...

Sexual abuse online

When i was 9 someone sent me drawn porn and then forced me to write sexual things in return. does this count as sexua...

Removing photos online

I was on a random chat site and the person told me to do inappropriate things on camera, then they screenshotted me...

Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

The law

Hello Sam, just a quick question is it against the law to get fingered at the age of 13 this happened to me and i did...