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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

Fixed term exclusion

hi sam, i was excluded for a fixed term in yr 10 i am extremly ashamed of what i did as i was verbally hurtfall to a ...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Transgender

i have always preferred being a girl to a boy and love crossdressing, my parents do not like it. They threaten to tak...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Mom

i am experiencing a hard time living at hom with my mom ever since she was caught cheating on my dad with another man...

Im worried

Hi, i am a ten year old girl and i am really worried and scaredi used to love it when my nan and grandad spoiled me b...

Abuse

Just to check, if your parents hit you to punish you, is that a form of abuse? Like, you're caught lying? Also, my m...

Parents

Dear  Sam I get worried at this time of year because it all ways causes more arguments  with my parents also my nan h...

Foster care

I have recently been placed in foster care because my mum wasn't able to care for me but I feel really upset and angr...

Family problems

I've been having a few problems at home, my mum don't know how to control her anger and she takes her anger out on me...

Family problem

Dear Sam , i'm 15 , when i was young my mom allowed me to practice taekwondo but now my mom says taekwondo is not for...

What are my rights?

Hi Sam, I've got a problem and it's starting to get to me physically now, when I was 14-15 I was kicked out of my hou...

Repressing secrets...

Hi. Where shall I begin? Well, when I was around 8 years old, I was molested by two of my cousins, both on seperate o...

In care

Hi Sam, I'm wondering hider what circumstances that social services put children into Care because my mam slaps and ...

Abuse

Dear Sam, I am worried about my friend, her dad is abusing her, I'm the only one who knows, she won't tell anyone, sh...

neglect

What happens when you are being neglected Please help me find out please Sam please xx

Rape?

I'm fifteen ( a few months until i'm 16 ) and a family friend is 24. I had a crush on him so I used to drop slight hi...

Beatings

Hello Sam I just wanted some advice on what to do about my situation because I am unhappy, my parents get drunk nearl...

I'm scared

My dad never drinks so all of his anger is real. He always shouts and today he disowned me and told me that tomorro...

taking too far

Hi sam my parent are taking too far because i have been a naughty girl and i know they have the right to punish me or...

Alcoholic dad

My dad has a alcohol and drug problem.he gets really violent , he still is even if he is sober.he has always been thr...

abuse

Dear Sam, I'm not sure what to do. I'm 13 years old and my mum hits me nearly every day, sometimes with a belt. She s...

Neglect - no food.

My family hurts me alot and my feelngs. They also make me cry and become upset. I have come close to cut my wrists an...

Forced Marriage

Hi Sam. I know this is a weird problem, as no one else who sent you a letter on here has posted about it. But anywa...

my brother is really mean to me

I am 9 years old and my brother is 13 he says things like I was fond out side kfc eating chips off the grond  and  he...

Physical and verbal abuse

My dad constantly the threats to beat me up or harm me in a horrble way sometimes he does hit me or throws something ...

My experience

When I was 6  I was sexually abused by my aunts husband when I was on holiday. I reported it and it was dealt with. B...