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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

How I'm feeling

hi sam im writing to you for some advice..... ive been in care a year and a half now,,,, i was put into care due to m...

Religion

Hello Sam, I want to know about religion. How much should i believe in it? Should i dedicate my life to religion? Sho...

Transgender male to female

Hi, i am male to female transgender. Can you please give me advice about next steps for me, I have 'come out' to my f...

Bullying at work

I’m 16 and recently got a new job. I feel like my manager is picking on me because of my mental health and me being v...

Not feeling right...

Recently I have not been myself, in failing at school, I hate being at home and my friendships keep falling apart, I ...

Fitting in

Hi i am a 11 year old girl and i do not fit in ANYWHERE. I guess i am a bit weird i always wear black and sometimes i...

big decisions

hi Sam, This week I have been faced with a very difficult choice that could change the path im on at the moment. Ive ...

Made a mistake

hi. i have been really silly and sent some messages to girls that I wish I could take back. school have found out and...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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I feel pressured to have sex

I’m really worried about Saturday. I’ve been speaking to this guy from my school for about a week and we’ve seen each...

Sex and pregnancy

So i am 16 i just became sexually active and it is quite frequent. I am terrified of getting pregnant even though we ...

Internet Friends

Hello. I was wondering, how do I tell my parents about my internet friend. We’ve been talking for almost a year and I...

My friend sent me porn

my friend sent this weird frickin porn website about sex toys. It was on Instagram and it made me feel very uncomftab...

Alone after being bullied

I've been being bullied by a few girls in my friendship group for around 6 months now but stayed in the group because...

my school friendship problems.

hi , at school i feel as if nobody notices me . i don't have any proper friends and all the people who i thought were...

Masturbation

hi im 12 and i feel disgusting if i masterbate but i cant stop myself from doing this i watch porn sometimes but i fe...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

The implant

Hey ive been thinking about getting the implant for quite a while now as i started to have sex when i turned 14 i hav...

Can I get arrested

Basically I don‘t watch porn but one time a few years ago I did because I was curious. I didnt do it again and never ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Being Gay and coming out

Dear Sam, I am an almost 13 year old boy and I am gay. It’s been a big realisation over the past few months and it ha...