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social workers

I have a social worker who comes to my house weekly. sometimes when he come I get scared that he take us away from my mum. I don't know what to do. I beg you to tell me something to get my mind of it.
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. People have lots of different ideas about what social services do and that can make them seem really worrying and scary.

The biggest worry about social services can be when you don’t know what they’ll do. Something important to remember about social services is that they only take people into care when it’s too unsafe to stay at home or there’s nobody who can take care of them properly.

You’ve always got a right to know what’s happening with your family and have a say in what you feel is best. Don’t forget that social workers are people too and they don’t want to judge you — they just want to keep you safe.

It might be good to think about what would happen if you felt able to tell your social worker how scared you’ve been. One of the dangers about keeping a fear inside is that is that sometimes it can leave you feeling like everything is out of your control.

Telling your social worker what’s been worrying you can give you both a chance to talk about what is going to happen. If you’re not sure it might help as well to post on the message boards first to find out what’s helped other people when they’ve been scared of social services.

No matter how you feel about social services you don’t have to be alone. An Advocate is someone who’s there to help make sure you get heard about things in your life. They can help you talk to your social worker for you when you need them to. You can find out more on the NYAS website.

I hope this helps, take care.

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