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Hi there,
Family relationships can be really difficult for young people, especially when they experience emotional or physical abuse. It's also really hard for them if they see or hear domestic violence happening between parents, carers or other family members.
Witnessing domestic violence between your mum and dad when you were 7 years old will have been emotionally upsetting for you, even if you werent the one being physically hurt. It sounds as though your parents separation has also been tough, especially as this has meant seeing your dad less than you would like.
Im really concerned about the recent physical abuse by your mum. I want you to know that its wrong for your mum, or anybody else, to hurt you in this way. It sounds like this incident left you feeling extremely distressed and you say you've been feeling suicidal. If you ever feel suicidal again or if youre worried about your own safety or your mums three year old son you can get immediate help by calling 999. You did the right thing when you tried to get help from your dad and the police even though your mum stopped you.
I understand that youre worried about getting your mum into trouble, but you have a right to be happy and safe at home. Its okay to get help for what is happening. Talking to a trusted adult such as your dad, sister, teacher, social worker or ChildLine counsellor could really help you. One of the things you could talk about is how to work out a safety plan if you are ever hurt, feeling unsafe or suicidal. Remember, if you need medical help for any injuries, you can see a doctor without telling your mum or anybody else.
Take care,
Sam
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