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Hi there,
Feeling lonely and rejected is always difficult, but even more so when you dont feel able to turn to anyone at home or to your friends. Always remember that you do matter and that you deserve to be around people who care about you.
When someone goes to prison it doesnt just affect them. It also affects a lot of people around them. Its easy to understand that if someone breaks the law they go to prison as a punishment, but often that punishment can make things harder for that persons friends and family who havent done anything wrong.
Your brothers actions have meant that you feel forgotten about, but your father is responsible for this too. Its wrong of him to try and make you feel guilty about not going over, when all he does is go out drinking when youre there.
A good way of showing this is to keep track of every time he does something like this to you. You could try to do this in a really visible way such as keeping a jar. Every time you feel let down by him, put a penny into the jar. When you can show him a jar full of coins, that might get him to realise how often he lets you down.
However, whats important in the short term is that you feel good about yourself and have people around you who feel the same. True friends will always be there for you, but sometimes people need to be told that their actions are hurting you. I would try to talk to each of your friends separately about whats going on for you and how left out you feel. Be sure to let them know how much you want their support, and also how you will be there for them when they need you. If this doesnt have any effect then its time to meet some new people. You deserve real friends.
Friends and family relationships can be complex so it might be good to speak to a counsellor about this in more detail, but I hope this has helped in the meantime.
Take care,
Sam
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