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I'm a 16 year old male, and I've been getting verbally and physically abused by my mom and dad since I was 5, I'm scared at home.. My mom verbally abuses me, and my dad and grandma still stick up with her, today she was disrespecting me and made me feel as though I was trash until I finally had enough and asked her kindly to treat me polite and as a person, and that if she doesn't respect me I see no need to respect her, then she lost it and threatened to hit me multiple times and if I cried or called anyone she would hit me more violently and take everything away from me when we got home, I just arrived home and she went out to complete some errends, please reply soon..
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Hi there,

Nobody has the right to hurt you – no matter what. Although it’s difficult, the best thing to do is to tell someone so that you can get out of this situation. You deserve to be happy and to not feel scared at home.

When someone is abusing you in this way, it can seem like you’re trapped and there is no way out. Sometimes it might feel normal or that you deserve it – neither of which is true. There’s nothing you could say or do to make it okay for someone to hurt you.

Make sure you feel ready to share your story with someone first. Even though you feel unsafe at home, it takes time and courage to work up to telling someone. Finding the right person is one of the most important things – they need to be someone you can trust who will get you the help you need.

It’s important that you don’t put yourself in any further danger by them finding out that you’ve told someone before you are safe. So picking the right time is really crucial. You could tell a teacher at school and then arrange for them to contact social services who could meet you away from home first.

To really know for sure what you want to do next, you’ll need to fully understand what could happen. A good way to get this understanding is to talk it through with a ChildLine counsellor who will be able to give you some more advice.

I hope all this helps. Well done for getting in touch.


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