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My mum hits me

My mum always blames stuff on me she knows I haven't done she hits me and punches me secretly when I'm out in public I don't know what to do ! Is this child abuse?
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I imagine this was a hard letter to write and I’m really glad that you’ve felt able to ask for help. Everything you have talked to me about would be called physical abuse. It is very wrong and should not be happening to you.

No matter what you do, being hurt is never your fault and nobody has the right to hurt you like this. You deserve to feel happy and safe where you live but when someone is hurting you it is called physical abuse and it’s wrong. The fact that your mum does this secretly to you shows that she knows it’s wrong too – and as an adult she should understand that it’s not okay to hurt you.

I’m concerned to hear about all that you have told me so I want you to know that if your mum is ever making you feel really scared or unsafe, you can call 999 to ask for immediate help.

The quickest way for the abuse to stop is to tell a trusted adult such as a teacher, relative or a friend’s parents - they will then be able to help you to contact people who can keep you safe. Find out more about asking an adult for help.

If you don’t feel ready to talk to an adult about the abuse, you can always contact a counsellor at ChildLine. They could listen and support you as well as discuss ways that home can be made safer.

You are important and there are people out there who would want to help to stop this abuse. Everybody needs some extra support from time to time. Maybe this is that time for you. You can contact the counsellors by calling 0800 1111, by sending them an email or by logging in for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take good care of yourself.


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