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Was I sexually molested by my sister?

This happened a few months but it still bothers me. Im 13 year old girl and my sister is 7. I was doing something when my sister came behind me and squeezed my boobs. Is she lesbian? Why did shedo it? Because of this I don't like her. My parents don't careso I didn't tell them. What shall I do?
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Hi there,

Younger children don’t usually understand what’s okay and what’s not – and sometimes they’ll do things that you feel is wrong, but they don’t realise it. Your feelings are important so you should talk about this. It can also help to remember your sister might not understand she did something wrong in the first place.

Younger siblings look to older ones to learn how to behave. You could help her to learn by explaining how uncomfortable she made you feel. In a calm, gentle way, ask about her reasons. This could lead to her understanding more about how to act around people and what’s not okay.

Children as young as 7 aren’t usually able to understand their sexuality, and this isn’t something your sister needs to think about yet. What happened does not mean your sister is a lesbian, or that it was anything sexual.

Your feelings are important, so if you feel upset about what happened then you should make sure you get the support you need. If you don’t feel your parents care, then finding another adult you trust is something you can think about.

If you’d like someone to talk to about what happened, you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor. They can help you find ways to talk to your sister and support you if this is something you’re struggling with.

Take care,

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