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my name is s*****
when i was 8-9 years old my grandad sexually abused me and ever since he has been groaping me, part of my family know what hes like but they wont let me tell anyone because it will split the family up, what should i do?
Hi S*****,
Thank you for your letter, youve done so well to talk about being sexually abused. Youre doing the right thing talking about it. What your granddad has been doing is really wrong and he should not be doing it. You dont deserve to be treated like this.
Sometimes people who are being abused can worry about telling anyone in case it affects the family. I can understand this feeling as it sounds like there are people in your family who have put pressure on you to stay silent. Its wrong of your family to know about the abuse that is happening to you and not to do anything to stop it. You are worth being protected and kept safe.
If you were to tell someone and it caused problems within the family, then that would not be your fault it would be your granddads fault. He is an adult and he knows what he is doing is wrong. He is the one who is responsible not you. Abuse is wrong, but you are not wrong.
You have the right to talk to someone you trust about whats happening. This could be a teacher, a friend, a youth-worker or social services they can help you and your family change things. It might help to write down what you would like to say to someone. If youd like more help with how to talk about it, you can talk to a Childline counsellor. It could really help to talk about how you feel. If ever you feel unsafe or in danger you can call 999 for help.
Hope this helps.
Take care,
Sam
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