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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
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latest letters

Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

The implant

Hey ive been thinking about getting the implant for quite a while now as i started to have sex when i turned 14 i hav...

Can I get arrested

Basically I don‘t watch porn but one time a few years ago I did because I was curious. I didnt do it again and never ...

Sleep Paralysis

Hello, I have been experiencing regular sleep paralysis. I am not sure if you are aware of this (I've spoken to child...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Eating Problems.

Hello Sam, For such a long time I have felt over weight and fat, I've never been self confident and after things chan...

Sleeping

im finding it rly diffcult to sleep atm as everytime i sleep i feel trapped n i see a image of a room just filled wit...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

I tried to make myself vomit

i really want to be thin. i tried to make myself vomit a few weeks ago, and did it again today. i know i shouldnt do ...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Friend wants to commit suicide

hi, my best friend is having a few issues at the moment and has taken it apon herself to commit suicide... i have no ...

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...

I feel scared when I go to bed

Every night I feel scared before going to bed, after all these bad things happening I always think up scary theories...

Work experience and the phone

Hello, ​ I have work experience coming and am hoping to become a vet. I have anxiety, especislly when it comes to tal...

Growing up

Dear Sam, I'm going to turn 18 in a few weeks and I'm really worried about it. I still feel like a child and I'm worr...

Bereavement.

My best friend passed away when I was 13; we were very close. She was buried in a cemetery near where she lived. I've...

Feeling depressed

Hi, I have been feeling very depressed For a couple of months now. im having lots of family problems and it's all jus...

My best friend's eating

My best friend never eats/barely eats anything at school. I'm really worried about her, she's naturally skinny and ve...

Depression

hi Sam, I'm 16 and my boyfriend broke up with me recently, I'm finding it hard to deal with, I've also been arguing w...

Worried about ISIS

Hello i am worrying myself i really don't want a war to break out in Isis but i really need to talk to someone...

I think I love my Therapist?

Um ever since I was 11 I have had really messy relationships. I started seeing my first psychologist about a year ago...

My dad has breast cancer

Hi sam I dont no how to start this but here ​Ok so 2 weeks ago my mum and dad told me and my brother my dad has breas...

drama class

I don't want to go to drama class and my parents are forcing me to go. It is three hours. I told them I didn't want t...