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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Finding out I had an other dad

on the 1st of june 2018, I got an message over social media from a boy around the age of 21 practically telling me I ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Failed my GCSE's

Hey Sam, I just wanted to say that I failed my GCSE's and didn't get the grade I needed to in order to do what I want...

School loneliness

Hi Sam, I’ve never done one of these before but here it goes. I’m in year 11 at school and I have no friends at all a...

Message from Sam

It can be hard to spot the signs of an abusive relationship, even when you’re in the relationship yourself. I’d be really interested in hearing about harmful relationships in the next few weeks. Remember that I only respond to a few letters each week but I do read all of them.

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Potential OCD

Hi Sam, Im 15 and im dealing with school and stress ect. i think i have developed OCD because i do strange things for...

Coping with anger and autism

Hi sam. Im finding it really hard to even talk to you about anything so i am proud of myself for doing it. I suffer f...

Loss of my niece

Hi Sam. My niece died when I was 10 and a lot of people were giving my sister abuse because the press published the w...

Postnatal depression

Hi Sam I suffer from postnatal depression my baby is 6 mouths old and I can’t seem to cope with her please help me

My favourite musician has died

Hi Sam. I’m 13 and recently one of my favourite music artists has died and I really am struggling to deal with it. I ...

Anger

Hi Sam, I wanted to write to you about anger. At home I can get into trouble for something small(It sometimes stops h...

Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Fear of being sick

Hi Sam, ​I've had this phobia for 3 years now, and I don't know what to do. I can't stand anyone throwing up or me th...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

Dealing with PTSD

Hi Sam, I was sexually assaulted for 2 years as a child by my best friends dad at sleepovers and I'm struggling with ...

Am I relapsing?

Hi Sam, ​ I've struggling with disordered eating for about 5 or 6 years now with my weight fluctuating from underweig...

Extreme fear of haircuts

Hi Sam, I am 17 and I am ashamed to say that I have a severe fear if getting haircuts, to the point I haven’t had one...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Eating Problems.

Hello Sam, For such a long time I have felt over weight and fat, I've never been self confident and after things chan...