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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

School and me

First day back at school was horrible people laughed at me threw the hallways and called me fat. ive cut myself befor...

Homelessness

Ive been homeless since I was 15. I'm now 18. I've been stayin on sofas and sometimes on park benches or in the town ...

My mum always hits me

Dear Sam ​ My mum always hits me even when its a sall thing like i have forgotten to wash my face, she pulls my hair ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Pressure about doing piano

Hi Sam i have been doing piano for a couple of years now but I am really bord of it and music isn't really my passion...

Message from Sam

Food is a part of life for us every day, but for some people this is a real problem. I’d be really interested to hear from you if you’re having problems with eating or your body image.

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I think I love my Therapist?

Um ever since I was 11 I have had really messy relationships. I started seeing my first psychologist about a year ago...

My dad has breast cancer

Hi sam I dont no how to start this but here ​Ok so 2 weeks ago my mum and dad told me and my brother my dad has breas...

drama class

I don't want to go to drama class and my parents are forcing me to go. It is three hours. I told them I didn't want t...

I don't know anymore

I think I have anxiety. My mum thinks I'm telling her this for attention but I'm not. No one understands how I feel a...

Needles

I am 12 and I have a HUGE phobia of needles. In fact I've never had one since I was a baby, and I am really scared. I...

Teachers and depression

I very recently told my teachers about my depression that has been happening for 5 months. The ones who I have talked...

depression and the doctors

I have made a doctors appointment to talk about my depressive symptoms, to see wherever or not i do have depression a...

Post-Christmas Mental Health

I suffer with bad depression, anxiety/panic and OCD, but the few weeks before Christmas I've been feeling really good...

Health Anxiety

Every night, and sometimes during the day, I get really stressed about my health. Whenever I eat sweets I feel like I...

Death

How do you get over the death of a parent?

Is this right??

I have known this guy for over a year and now he seems to notice me a lot more. He is a player but I seem to like him...

My daddy

My daddy died around 2 and a half years ago. I recently have been wondering how I can honour his memory in some way, ...

Christmas stress

I get really stressed at out Christmas time and sometimes it's too much. I get stressed about everything and then I e...

Can you help me please

I feel depressed all the time can't sleep at night and bad memories keep coming back in to my head. Can you help me

Depression

Hello, I have recently been feeling down and not enjoying things like decorating my Christmas Tree i hope you can help

Cannot Sleep

I literally cant get to sleep. I play on my phone or look on this website at night. I think I have insomnia!

Emotionless

Hi, Firstly I don't know if I should even be on here since my situation isn't really serious, but I feel invisible an...

Being mistaken as a girl often

In skl I often get mistaken as a girl, I'm a boy though. I even wear a male blazer for skl but people still think I'm...

How to continue

Hi Sam. I'm 14 and I am severely depressed. My question is, upon experiencing depression (and then more importantly r...

Trans help

Hi so I'm trans ftm and am out to everyone and my school is really supportive but I don't really feel much better tha...

Counselling

Hi, My mum has resently asked me about whether or not i want counselling and i dont know if i do or not, i know that ...

relaps

Hey, I used to selfharm, it's been almost a year since i last hurt myself and i don't want to do it again. But, i fee...

Coping with losing someone

Hi. I'm currently 13 years old, but when I was 11, I found my mum unconscious at the bottom of the stairs. She's been...

Going into care

Dear Sam, I am going into a kids home soon and wondered if you could tell me a little bit more about it. My Mum had d...