Hiii Sam! I just wanted to hop on and say that I find it really hard to get a seat on the train when I’m travelling when I need a seat because standing up can be hard for me to do sometimes.
I am a crutch user, and I use a crutch to help me walk, but standing up can be hard on the train, so I need to get a seat.
But most seats are taken, or get snatched up by people before I can get a chance to get it.
And I’m like very shy to ask for one
So I’m asking help on how to get the courage to get a seat, and what can help me to be seen on the train
Sam
Hi there,
It should always be okay to ask for a seat when you need one. Remember, your health and wellbeing comes first, even when it feels difficult to ask. Whether you’re on a train or any other kind of transport, there are small things you can do to make it easier.
Lots of public transport companies actually produce badges, lanyards, or cards to help make it easier for others to see you might need a seat. For example, in London TFL have made a Please offer me a seat badge. Wearing something that shows you might need a seat can help others feel more confident offering you one without you having to say anything.
Remember, you can use a badge from one company on any other public transport. For those with hidden disabilities, the sunflower lanyard can be a simple way to show you might need a seat.
There might be lots of reasons someone doesn’t feel able to ask for a seat. You could feel scared about how others might react, or worry that they’ll say no. Try to remind yourself that most people want to help, but might not think to until they’re asked.
One way to start building your confidence is through planning what to say and practising it. You don’t need to explain yourself if you don’t want to, and what you say could be as simple as “Excuse me, do you mind if I take this seat?” or “Hello, may I have this seat as it’s difficult for me to stand.” Try saying what you feel comfortable with in front of the mirror or with someone you trust.
When you ask for a seat, most people will give it to you without question. If someone says no, try to remind yourself that it might be that they need a seat as well and focus on asking someone else. Remember, it’s not okay for other people to question or accuse you about your needs.
However you’re feeling about public transport, Childline is here for you. You can get support and encouragement from a Childline counsellor any time.
Take care,
Sam
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