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Sexual Harassment

hey sam So there is a boy was formally in my form at school and he would sexual harass me. He would say stuff like ‘I want to have kids with you‘ and he would touch my legs, which made me feel really uncomfortable.

My school is aware of this but since doing a risk assessment don’t care and don’t believe that stuff could still be going on. The risk assessment ended with him moving forms and had lunch clubs on every day for a while. I still see him during lesson cross over and now since that period of time has ended lunch as well.

​He has gone on to touch me and threaten to rape me. I am scared, he has got a plan to rape me! Please help me find a way to make my dsl and Head Of Year believe me. They have both said that I am sure you will be fine or he must be traumatised and we have to let children express there trams in anyway they want or I am sure he did not mean it. Please help me

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Sam

Hi there,

You have a right to feel safe in school and what this boy has done is never okay. You did the right thing by telling someone what’s happening, but it sounds like you’ve not been given the support you deserve.

Your school has a duty of care to make sure you feel safe and protected. Whether a risk assessment has been done in the past or not, if someone is continuing to threaten or sexually harass you then the school has a duty to protect you. It’s wrong for your teachers or school to dismiss you or your feelings about what’s happening.

When your school isn’t acting to protect you, then there are other ways to get support.

It may help to keep a diary of everything this boy says and does to you. You could write this in your phone or have a notepad. Make sure you write down the time, place, and any witnesses. This can help to create a record and act as evidence of what you’re saying.

It can also help to talk to a trusted adult at home about what has been happening. They can speak to your school on your behalf to make sure your school is listening to you. You can also think about raising a complaint with your school or head teacher to make sure what’s happening is taken seriously.

Touching someone sexually or threatening to rape you is extremely serious, and is something that should never be ignored. If you ever feel immediately unsafe, it’s always okay to phone 999 in an emergency. You also have the right to report any behaviour like this to the police. It can also help to make a safety plan for ways to get support in the future.

Remember, you can always get support from Childline. We are here to support you with anything that’s happening.

Take care,

Sam

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