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Im not sure what to do

hey sam,

i recently got broken up with and that is actually killing me,i really REALLY loved this person and i dont think i can live without them, sadly i relied on them alot. my mood depended on their mood, the way i text or spoke depended all on them. now they are gone and i dont know what to do with myself.

me and them are still friends and shes allready liking someone else. i cant stop crying about us, we were together for 8 months almost 9 then one day it all ended, she blocked me and unblocked me over and over. we talk now.

i have no one to go to about this, no adults will listen and i practically have no friends what so ever, the ones who i think are my friends only text me when i want something, and the other people rarely text me .

the only person i actually talk to and enjoy talking to is my ex. i just dont know if i should move on, and if i should move on then.. how? how do i move on? how long will it take? will this empty pit be in my chest forever?

thank you.

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Sam

Hi there,

Break ups can feel really tough. Although people have different reasons for wanting to end a relationship, it can leave you feeling angry, confused, hurt and upset. It can sometimes be difficult to accept the relationship has come to an end.

It’s important to take time to focus on yourself. Allow yourself the time to process your own feelings and learn new ways to cope. Remind yourself some things you like about yourself and what you’re good at. Any kind of loss can take time to learn to cope with, but things can feel different in the future.

Moving on can feel scary but you can do it. It can be difficult to say how long it will take until you’re feeling better but give yourself some space and focus on moving forward. Try doing something you enjoy, or even start a new hobby. Trying different things can help you to start to feel better about yourself.

Talking helps and although it can feel like the only person you want to talk to is your ex, you’re not alone. Even if you can’t talk to people in your life, you can share things on the message boards or get support from Childline.

Although it may feel tempting to get back in touch with your ex, it will help to step away and limit any contact. Sometimes it can help to write down privately what you would like to say. Your mood journals can be a place to log your feeling and express your emotions. Only Childline can see what you have written.

Things can get better and you don’t have to go through any pain alone.

Take care,

Sam

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