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miscarriage

A few months ago i found out i was pregnant. I was only 15 and decided i didnt want to keep it as i was too young to take care of  a child. I booked an appointment at the clinic , but wierdly enough when i took tests at the clinic they turned up negative and the ultra sound said there was nothing there. I was over a month late on my period and home pregnancy tests turned out positive, so we came to the conclusion that it was a very early miscarriage. even though i didnt want the baby, the miscarriage was still a very traumatic experience and i think about it all the time. I dont know how im suppose to get over it?
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Sam

Thanks for your message.

It sounds as though you have been through a difficult and confusing time.  Miscarriage is rarely something that people go through without any feelings at all – no matter what stage it happens at. This experience is still very raw for you and you are unsure how you can get over this.

You are not alone in having an early miscarriage – around 30% of pregnancies miscarry and about 75% of those happen in the first 12 weeks. Memories of such an event can stay with you for a long time afterwards. It is important to talk about these feelings and share them with someone you trust. It is also a good idea to visit your nurse or GP just so they can make sure you are physically ok.

You described it as being traumatic and I think you’ve described that very well to me – trauma is something that can stay with us for a while and needs time to heal. There is support available for anyone who has gone through a miscarriage through organisations such as the Miscarriage Association.

ChildLine is here for you too – talking to one of our counsellors is one way you might get support. We can talk to you about this at your own pace and in whichever way you find easiest – online chat, email or on the phone.

You may also want to talk with other young people who have had a similar experience, to share how things have been and how they are finding ways to cope. You can do that by talking to people on the Childline message boards.

Thanks again for your message, I’m really glad you felt able to talk to me about it and I hope that we hear more from you soon.

Take care,

Sam

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