im 15 and recently had a miscarriage and noone knows about it except my boyfriend and 2 of my mates
i never realised i was pregnant until the miscarriage but i was starting to feel like maybe i was as i had a lot of the symptoms and i was about a week late on my period
it feels weird and i cant describe how i feel because im relieved im not going to have a baby but at the same time i feel sad about it because i just keep thinking about it but i dont really have anyone to talk to because my boyfriend doesnt really care about the miscarriage and hes really happy that were not going to be parents this young and one of my friends that i told also had a miscarriage before so when it was happening i told her and she said like yea it is a miscarriage thats what happened to me but her miscarriage still affects her and i dont want to make her feel bad but also i dont know who to talk to and i just feel really isolated and confused
please can you give me some advice
Sam
Hi there,
There’s no right or wrong way to feel when you’ve had a miscarriage. It’s okay to have feelings like sadness or grief even when the pregnancy wasn’t planned or you hadn’t realised you were pregnant. What you’re going through is natural, but sometimes it can be hard to cope with it alone.
Sometimes people can worry about sharing their feelings about having a miscarriage. You might be worried about your partner or others not understanding, being dismissed, or upsetting other people. How you’re feeling is important though, and you deserve to feel supported.
It can feel isolating when you’re not sure who you can share things with. Remember, you can always get support from a Childline counsellor about anything. It’s okay if it’s hard to find the words about how you’re feeling – you only need to say what you feel ready to.
You can also visit your doctor about what's happened. They can help you speak to other services for support.
If someone thinks they’re having a miscarriage, it’s important that they speak to their GP or any medical professionals they’re working with. You can contact your doctor’s office for an appointment or call 111 for non-emergency advice.
Take care,
Sam
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