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hi sam i just have a really big crush on this boy but i dont know how to ask him to be my boyfriend. because all his friends might laugh at me and everyone will make fun of me if he says no
Hi there,
Having a crush or thinking of a new relationship can feel fun and exciting, lots of young people feel anxious asking someone out.
There’s no specific way you have to ask someone out. Taking time to get to know your crush and spending time together can make it feel a little easier as you’re already getting to know each other or spending time together.
Think about asking them out in a way that feels right for you. You could plan a time when you both feel relaxed and your friends aren’t around. You don’t have to make any big statements; in fact it can help to keep things simple. Maybe think about something you could do together and ask if they’d like to go.
A natural part of asking someone to be your boyfriend is that they might say no. There can be lots of reasons someone might not want to be in a relationship, and that’s okay. It can help to make a plan for something nice to do or how you could cope if that happened. Being turned down might feel embarrassing, but it’s also something that happens to lots of people.
Remember, whether you ask someone out or not, you can keep doing the things that make you happy. Keep spending time with your friends and doing the things you enjoy. Be kind to yourself too, you deserve to go out with someone who wants to be with you.
If you’re ever struggling or you’re not sure, Childline is here. You can get support from a Childline counsellor any time.
Take care,
Sam
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