hi sam, i recently self harmed and im worried that when i go on holiday in the summer, i wont be able to go swimming or will have to explain to my family, mainly my older cousin who i talk to a lot, about why they are there, which isn't something i want to do, because im scared of how theyd react. but i love swimming and dont want to kiss out when i dont really go swimming much due to insecurities with my body. di you have any advice on how to hide it or how to avoid the topic if it comes up?
Sam
Hi there,
Summer, and hot months in general, can put pressure on us to cover up less. This can feel uncomfortable when you’re worried about people noticing scars or self-harm. You’re not alone though, and there are ways to get through it.
Going on holiday or swimming aren't always things you have control over. Talking to trusted adults in your life about your self-harm might feel tough, but it can also help you to feel more in control when you are swimming.
By having the conversation early, you can choose how people find out. Your family could even speak to your cousin on your behalf. Remember, you deserve to feel comfortable doing things you enjoy without feeling scared of what others may say. If you’re worried about what your cousin might say, it might help to practise what you'd like to say back if it comes up.
Whether it’s thinking about your scars, clothes, or ways to cope, we’ve got advice to help with self-harm over the summer. Lots of young people talk about their self-harm with Childline, and the message boards can be a great way to share ideas for how to cope.
Take care,
Sam
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