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Hi there,
Thanks for your letter.
I can hear how self-conscious you feel when you wear your glasses and that not wearing them causes problems for you.
You tell me that you feel embarrassed when you wear your glasses - sometimes we feel embarrassed by things that other people dont even notice. It might be useful to think about how often you notice other people wearing glasses. You might then ask yourself how likely it is that other people are thinking negatively about your glasses. Glasses are really normal and most people won't judge someone for wearing glasses.
You tell me that you have nice glasses that suit you and your friends tell you that you look pretty in them but you dont believe them. For some people it can be hard to accept compliments as they dont feel they deserve them. This can sometimes be because they have low self-esteem or confidence. You might find it useful to have a look at our building confidence and coping with embarrassment pages.
It sounds like you feel wearing contact lenses would make you feel more confident but cant because your mum wont let you have them. As you are 18 you are able to make that decision yourself but youd have to think about how you would pay for them if your mum wont buy them for you. It is also worth thinking about if getting your own contact lenses would cause any problems at home. You dont tell me much about how you and your mum get on but maybe you could ask your mum about her reasons for not wanting you to wear contact lenses. You could also visit your optician to discuss your options.
The counsellors at ChildLine are also here for you to talk to anytime, either by email, 1-2-1 chat or on the phone for free on 0800 1111.
Take care
Sam
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