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Hey Sam, I am really embarrassed because I just had my first period and I told my mum and now I am really embarrassed because of it. I don't like it when she talks about it to me because she speaks really loudly so that everyone in the house can hear. I understand that its normal for everyone, but I still feel uncomfortable. What do I do?

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Hi there,

Lots of young people feel uncomfortable talking about periods or puberty. It can sometimes feel even more awkward when you think others might know about it too. Remember, you’re not alone in how you’re feeling and nearly half the population will have periods. It’s always okay to talk about periods or ask for advice.

Even when we trust and get on with our family or carers, it can feel difficult when they do things that leave us feeling embarrassed. It may be that your mum doesn’t realise she could be overheard, or that you’re feeling embarrassed about it.

Telling your mum how you feel can be a great way to make sure she can support you without leaving you feeling embarrassed. You could be upfront and say you think others might hear, or ask for a time when you can both speak alone. Writing a letter is a great way of expressing your thoughts and feelings if you don’t want to say it out loud.

We are here to support you as well and you can always come and talk to us. There are also many young people on our [message boards](https://www.childline.org.uk/get-support/message-boards/boards/threads/?boardid=84&roomid=241) talking about puberty and periods. You’re always welcome to get support there.

Take care,

Sam

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