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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a Childline counsellor.

latest letters

My dad

can my dad make me quit my job? im 16 and work 2 jobs

legal dating advice

Hi I'm 17 and nearly 18 but I'm talking to a 13 nearly 14 year old. we both like each other and have both agreed on n...

Fear of being touched

Dear Sam, Whenever someone touches me I jump away, flinch, (one time) I just started shaking and/or freeze tensely. I...

No space at home

Dear Sam, I would like to ask you about how to fix the relationship in my house with my parents. Lately they have bee...

Social Media drama

Hi, my friends keep falling out with each other on Snapchat. Do you have any advice about not getting drawn into the ...

confidentiality promise

If someone told a counsellor about suicidal thoughts, would they have to tell someone. Even if there just thoughts or...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything you want and I read every single message sent. I can only reply to a few each week and I always do this in public on my page. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but it’s likely there are others just like it that I have answered before. If you want a definite response or need support then talking to a Childline counsellor is the best way to do that.

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Nudes Blackmail

hi when i was younger like 2 years ago i send nudes to a guy i didnt know on snapchat, today i found out that it was ...

Guilt over a death

When I met my last boyfriend he had an ex who cheated on him. He left her and we got together. After 5 months he told...

is oral illegal?

Me and my girlfriend are both 13 and both decided on having oral sex before going straight to sex. We havent Told any...

i sent nudes and regret it

hey sam, back in october i was really close to this boy, we sent nudes to each other. i ended up telling my friends b...

My girlfriend has ptsd

hey sam. my girlfriend was sexually assaulted and struggles with ptsd. how do i help her. thanks. ​


So im currently dating this guy who I want to be with everyday. But i cant help this feeling in the back of my mind t...

Laxative abuse

Hi Sam, I’ve just found out that a lad I’ve been seeing has been putting laxatives into my food and drinks. I just fe...

Toxic Friends

Hi Sam, Lately I have been dealing with a lot. I have three close friends which I love and care for so much but I am ...

Friends Mum died

Hi sam so in the last year one of my closest friend's mum passed away, It was quite unexpected and really hard on me ...


hello sam, im 10 i am pretty embarrassed about the suituation im in. I masturbate. and im only 10. amd something even...


hey sam, my best friend next year is going to university which im delighted aboit but the thing is that the universit...

Masturbation (Blackmail)

Hi Sam. Someone who I don't know has emailed me claiming that they have footage of me masturbating. What should I do?

My friend started doing coke

Hi, my friend recently has began to take drugs, starting on weed, but has now quickly started to do cocaine, I really...