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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

arguing i can hear next door

hi I was wondering what should I do if I can hear two parents arguing almost every day in front of their children? th...

1-2-1 Counsellors

Hi Sam, I was just wondering how likely is it that someone will talk to the same counsellor twice if they go to chat ...

Messed up my GCSE's.

​ Hi Sam, ​ I've just completed my GCSE's and when I got the results back I was so shocked because they were so awful...

Being in a wheelchair

Dear sam i have been in a wheelchair since I was 11 because I was knocked by a car and lost both of my legs and have ...

Shaving

Hi Sam, i am ten years old, but I feel like I need to start shaving. My mum says that she is going to tell me about g...

In love with a celebrity

Dear Sam I have started becoming really obsessed with the lead singer of my favourite band. I keep stalking her socia...

Message from Sam

Going back to school can be a nervous experience for some people. It might be the start of something new for you or it could mean going back to a place where you struggle with other issues like bullying. I'd like to hear from anyone who has worries about going back to school.

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Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...

Can I go on the pill?

I'm a girl that's 15 years of age. Last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend (at the time) and since we have brok...

Lied about my age

i'm 16 and i met a guy online and told him I was 18 and he is 19. At first i didn't think it was a big deal because i...

My addiction to pornography.

Hi Sam, About three quarters of a year ago, I was on Instagram and I was scrolling through my feed and found that one...

Having the implant

Hi, I am thinking about having the implant done,I wanted to ask would you tell my parents as I am 14?

it okay

dear sam, I have just found out my boyfriend is gay I don't know how to tell him that im okay with it and I will move...

Sex

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl who has had sex. I had sex a couple of weeks ago and I think I'm pregnan. My question is ...

Sexual abuse in relationships

I was pressured into doing things i didn't want to do with my now ex boyfriend. I tried telling him I didn't want to ...

internet friends

Hi Sam, I am writing to ask you if it is okay to have internet friend. I have over fifty Internet friends that I talk...

Turning 16 first

I'm a girl and for a few months now, I have been having sex with a boy in my year. We aren't actually boyfriend and g...

Relationships

Sam, there's a boy who I was seeing for 5 months but we aren't together anymore due to complications and that he isn'...

Boys

Hi SAM, my name is **** and I have a massive problem with some boys. My ex, lets call him Danny, and another boy, let...

sexual harassment

hi, im a 16 year old girl and recently one of my families friends has been making me feel uncomofortable. i went to t...

Boyfriends

Hi my name is liz and im confuseibecause over the summer i went to a summer club and meet a boy that i knew from like...

Is it emotional abuse?

I've been in an on and off relationship for ov r a year now. He's broken up with me then gotten back with me three ti...