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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Dog Phobia

Dear Sam, I have always been scared of dogs. I run when they are near and they chase me. I have been injured by a dog...

Binge Eating

Hey Sam, I was wondering how to cope with binge eating. over the year I've noticed my emotions were all over the plac...

anorexia? bulimia?

hi sam, ive had this on my mind but i dont know if i have anorexia or bulimia but if i do i know i need help most day...

GCSEs with an Eating Disorder

hi sam, im really worried about gcses and its bringing up all my old problems which i worked really hard on getting r...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Bed wetting

Dear Sam, i am 13 years old and have been a bed wetter since I was 8. The doctors have found nothing wrong with me af...

My friend needs a Saviour

My friend has been cutting for a while. I have no clue what to do. I’ve given her everything I could. I feel useless.

Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

I have had sex with a girl and am worried that she is pregnant. I love her but don't want a child. do I pressure her ...

Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...

Can I go on the pill?

I'm a girl that's 15 years of age. Last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend (at the time) and since we have brok...

Lied about my age

i'm 16 and i met a guy online and told him I was 18 and he is 19. At first i didn't think it was a big deal because i...

My addiction to pornography.

Hi Sam, About three quarters of a year ago, I was on Instagram and I was scrolling through my feed and found that one...

Having the implant

Hi, I am thinking about having the implant done,I wanted to ask would you tell my parents as I am 14?

it okay

dear sam, I have just found out my boyfriend is gay I don't know how to tell him that im okay with it and I will move...