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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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latest letters

my school friendship problems.

hi , at school i feel as if nobody notices me . i don't have any proper friends and all the people who i thought were...

Cyber Bullying

Hi, im currently having a few problems over social media. recently a girl i know made an account on a website with th...

Bullying

Dear Sam, I have a friend in school who has moved from Greece, were both in year 10 and he doesn’t have many friends....

I don’t know how to feel

I was raped by my partner of 4 years he was remanded for 4 months but was found not guilty at trial since then I was ...

Suicide in a game

Hi Sam, Recently I have been playing a video game and there is a character in it called Kate. She gets bullied and tr...

Young Carers

Hi Sam im a young carer and i have been getting very stressed and i at home i live with my mum and grandma. When i ge...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

I have had sex with a girl and am worried that she is pregnant. I love her but don't want a child. do I pressure her ...

Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...

Can I go on the pill?

I'm a girl that's 15 years of age. Last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend (at the time) and since we have brok...

Lied about my age

i'm 16 and i met a guy online and told him I was 18 and he is 19. At first i didn't think it was a big deal because i...

My addiction to pornography.

Hi Sam, About three quarters of a year ago, I was on Instagram and I was scrolling through my feed and found that one...

Having the implant

Hi, I am thinking about having the implant done,I wanted to ask would you tell my parents as I am 14?

it okay

dear sam, I have just found out my boyfriend is gay I don't know how to tell him that im okay with it and I will move...

Sex

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl who has had sex. I had sex a couple of weeks ago and I think I'm pregnan. My question is ...

Sexual abuse in relationships

I was pressured into doing things i didn't want to do with my now ex boyfriend. I tried telling him I didn't want to ...

internet friends

Hi Sam, I am writing to ask you if it is okay to have internet friend. I have over fifty Internet friends that I talk...