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Will I get pregnant from fingering

hello sam, please help. i think im preggers. i am 13 and have never had my period before but last week my boyfriend.... FINGERED ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my period has nevrr came before but is never going to come and instead im going to have a child. unless you can help sam. can i get pregnant from this

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Hi there,

It's always possible to become pregnant if any sperm gets inside your vagina, but it is much less likely to happen through fingering than if your boyfriend uses his penis. When having sex, it's important to use protection if you don't want to get pregnant - this means things like condoms or the contraceptive pill, implant or injection.

Fingering on its own can't get you pregnant, there needs to be sperm involved. If your boyfriend has been touching his penis first and has sperm on his hands when he puts his fingers into your vagina, then there is a small chance you could get pregnant from this. Even though the chance is small you should make sure he washes any sperm from his hands first, just to be sure.

I get a lot of letters asking about when it's possible to get pregnant and the answer is the same. Basically, if sperm goes into your vagina then there's a chance, but it's never definite. Some people become pregnant easily, whereas others might not get pregnant even after unprotected sex. It's never worth taking the risk though so using contraceptives is important.

The law does say you need to be 16 before you can agree to have sex, but you'll still be able to get free contraception from your GP or a sexual health centre even though you’re 13. You can visit a sexual health clinic and they will keep it confidential - you don't need a parent or adult with you. Some sexual health clinics are just for young people. Brook has a way to find your nearest clinic - most of them don't need appointments so, when it's safe to do so, you could go there for more advice.

Thanks for sharing, I hope this has helped. If you need to talk more about your worries, our counsellors are there to listen and they won't judge you.

Take care.

Sam

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