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I might be pregnant but I'm scared to get a test

Basically , couple weeks ago i began to trust my boyfriend and then we ended up going to a level an doing things maybe i shouldnt have at the age of 15 , unprotected too & he said he knew what he was doing so it was okay. Then this month my stomachs been feeling weird, ive missed my period and everything an i feel like im pregnant but im too scared to get a test because if its positive i wont know what to do

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Hi there,

It's possible to get pregnant any time you have sex but the chances are different if you use contraception than if you don't. You won't always get pregnant if you have unprotected sex but it's much more likely. Sometimes your body might react in a way that makes you feel like you might be pregnant, even if you're not - especially if you’re worried about it. There is only one way to know for sure and that's to get a test.

Facing up to difficult problems is scary - but ignoring them can cause you more harm later. This is especially true with pregnancy because if you’re pregnant then this isn't likely to go away on its own. The idea of taking the test might be making you anxious but not knowing either way can be hard too. Just remember that taking the test doesn't change anything - you're either pregnant or you're not, so it's best to find out.

You can get free pregnancy tests from your GP or a sexual health clinic. If those are closed or if your GP isn’t able to see you at the moment then you can buy tests from most pharmacies and supermarkets. They range in price but you should expect to pay around £8-10 for the cheapest options.

If the test did show you were pregnant then you have three options - you can carry on with the pregnancy, you can end the pregnancy with an abortion or you can continue with the pregnancy but give the baby up for adoption. What you choose to do is your decision - nobody else has the right to force you into doing anything you don't want to do, no matter which of these options you prefer.

The option to have an abortion has a time limit on it - and the longer you wait, the harder and more invasive the procedure is. You can have an abortion up to 23 weeks into the pregnancy by law, but realistically it gets a lot more difficult to do so after 16 weeks. If you want an abortion you can get one without a parent's consent and without them knowing - even if you are under 16. You would be encouraged to have an adult you trust involved as it might be a very difficult experience for you, but you don't have to. This is true only as long as the doctors feel you are capable of making this decision yourself and fully understand what it means.

I hope this has helped but if you do need to talk more about it, our counsellors are here for you and can listen and offer advice about where to get practical support for your pregnancy worries.

Thanks for sharing this, take care.


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