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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

My mom needs a divorce

My mom is currently married to an alcoholic man. He's a good person when he's not drunk but thats not often anymore. ...

Can’t sleep

Hi Sam, this has been happening for at least a year now, but I‘ve been struggling to sleep when i go to bed every nig...

Dog Phobia

Dear Sam, I have always been scared of dogs. I run when they are near and they chase me. I have been injured by a dog...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Depression

hi Sam, I'm 16 and my boyfriend broke up with me recently, I'm finding it hard to deal with, I've also been arguing w...

relaps

Hey, I used to selfharm, it's been almost a year since i last hurt myself and i don't want to do it again. But, i fee...

Self Harm

My names is K* and I'm 18, I have recently starting self harming again after not for 3 months, I really need to talk ...

Self-harm

My mum is only aware that i have self-harmed once. I have done this alot more than once and i keep trying to tell my ...

Mental healt

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety attacks for like two years now. I want to speak to a doctor for ther...

Self-harm

How do I find out what triggers me to self harm?

Girlfriend Self Harm

Dear Sam,I have recently found out that my girlfriend self-harms. She has told me that she had done so for the last 2...

how do I stop

I started feeling really down exactly a year ago. I started self harming. I then completely broke down and had to tel...

School and self harm

Hi Sam, i am currently in year 10, I am going back to school after Christmas break in a couple of days. However I am...

Telling my bf I cut

I need help finding a way to tell my boyfriend I cut, but I really don't know how to. It's been bothering me for a th...

Self harm

I was self harming for about three to four years and eventually got taken out of my parents care and put in a 'safe' ...

Self harm

hi sam im an 11 year old girl called r* and im self harming i dont know why HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Talking to a doctor

Hey, so basically yesterday I booked an appointment to see a doctor, about self harm and I want to know what they're ...