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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Finding out I had an other dad

on the 1st of june 2018, I got an message over social media from a boy around the age of 21 practically telling me I ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Failed my GCSE's

Hey Sam, I just wanted to say that I failed my GCSE's and didn't get the grade I needed to in order to do what I want...

School loneliness

Hi Sam, I’ve never done one of these before but here it goes. I’m in year 11 at school and I have no friends at all a...

Message from Sam

It can be hard to spot the signs of an abusive relationship, even when you’re in the relationship yourself. I’d be really interested in hearing about harmful relationships in the next few weeks. Remember that I only respond to a few letters each week but I do read all of them.

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Self Harm In Sport

Hi Sam, I have struggled with self harm since November 2016. I do a lot of gymnastics and we have a very strict dress...

Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Depression

hi Sam, I'm 16 and my boyfriend broke up with me recently, I'm finding it hard to deal with, I've also been arguing w...

relaps

Hey, I used to selfharm, it's been almost a year since i last hurt myself and i don't want to do it again. But, i fee...

Self Harm

My names is K* and I'm 18, I have recently starting self harming again after not for 3 months, I really need to talk ...

Self-harm

My mum is only aware that i have self-harmed once. I have done this alot more than once and i keep trying to tell my ...

Mental healt

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety attacks for like two years now. I want to speak to a doctor for ther...

Self-harm

How do I find out what triggers me to self harm?

Girlfriend Self Harm

Dear Sam,I have recently found out that my girlfriend self-harms. She has told me that she had done so for the last 2...

how do I stop

I started feeling really down exactly a year ago. I started self harming. I then completely broke down and had to tel...

School and self harm

Hi Sam, i am currently in year 10, I am going back to school after Christmas break in a couple of days. However I am...

Telling my bf I cut

I need help finding a way to tell my boyfriend I cut, but I really don't know how to. It's been bothering me for a th...

Self harm

I was self harming for about three to four years and eventually got taken out of my parents care and put in a 'safe' ...

Self harm

hi sam im an 11 year old girl called r* and im self harming i dont know why HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...