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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I don’t know how to feel

I was raped by my partner of 4 years he was remanded for 4 months but was found not guilty at trial since then I was ...

Suicide in a game

Hi Sam, Recently I have been playing a video game and there is a character in it called Kate. She gets bullied and tr...

Young Carers

Hi Sam im a young carer and i have been getting very stressed and i at home i live with my mum and grandma. When i ge...

Body image

i feel really disgusting about my body and i am definitely not body positive can you help ?

Anxiety at school

hi sam. i have anxiety. my guidance teacher gave me a card that i show to my teachers and they would allow me to leav...

Masturbation

hi im 12 and i feel disgusting if i masterbate but i cant stop myself from doing this i watch porn sometimes but i fe...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Self Harm In Sport

Hi Sam, I have struggled with self harm since November 2016. I do a lot of gymnastics and we have a very strict dress...

Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Depression

hi Sam, I'm 16 and my boyfriend broke up with me recently, I'm finding it hard to deal with, I've also been arguing w...

relaps

Hey, I used to selfharm, it's been almost a year since i last hurt myself and i don't want to do it again. But, i fee...

Self Harm

My names is K* and I'm 18, I have recently starting self harming again after not for 3 months, I really need to talk ...

Self-harm

My mum is only aware that i have self-harmed once. I have done this alot more than once and i keep trying to tell my ...

Mental healt

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety attacks for like two years now. I want to speak to a doctor for ther...

Self-harm

How do I find out what triggers me to self harm?

Girlfriend Self Harm

Dear Sam,I have recently found out that my girlfriend self-harms. She has told me that she had done so for the last 2...

how do I stop

I started feeling really down exactly a year ago. I started self harming. I then completely broke down and had to tel...

School and self harm

Hi Sam, i am currently in year 10, I am going back to school after Christmas break in a couple of days. However I am...

Telling my bf I cut

I need help finding a way to tell my boyfriend I cut, but I really don't know how to. It's been bothering me for a th...

Self harm

I was self harming for about three to four years and eventually got taken out of my parents care and put in a 'safe' ...

Self harm

hi sam im an 11 year old girl called r* and im self harming i dont know why HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...