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Hi,
Well done for getting in touch with me at what seems like a really difficult time for you. There are lots of reasons why young people self-harm, but there are different ways for you to cope and get help.
Self-harm usually comes from emotions that are difficult to cope with. It can be used as a way of releasing tension or controlling something in your life. It sounds like self-harm has become a way for you to manage your feelings when youre feeling down.
It can sometimes be difficult to stop self-harming completely. Its also natural to have a pattern of stopping and returning to self-harm. Its important to remember the huge amount of strength and progress you have shown for not hurting yourself for those times when you weren't self-harming. But remember that we understand that there are lots of things that can cause us to start again. There are lots of self-harm coping techniques that you may find helpful to try and distract you, if you feel the urge to harm again.
You said that your friend trying to commit suicide recently was a trigger for you. It sounds like youre trying to manage a lot of difficult feelings on your own. It can be hard if no one ever asks if youre okay. I want you to know that you are not alone in this. You can get support from other young people on our self-harm message boards and find out what they have done to cope when they feel like they want to self-harm.
Its really positive to hear that you want to be able to stop and that youre sure theres another solution to self-harm. There are lots of people who can help you stop self-harming and support you to find different ways to cope with how youre feeling. You can talk to one of our counsellors, who are here to listen and can support you to express your feelings and help you to take steps to making a change.
Take care,
Sam
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