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Self Harm

My names is K* and I'm 18, I have recently starting self harming again after not for 3 months, I really need to talk to my GP about it but I'm scared, please help
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Hi K*

Lots of young people use self-harm as a way of coping with difficult feelings or experiences.  It’s important to know that there are always other ways to deal with things like this. These are different for everyone and it can take time to find what’s right for you.

If you’ve stopped self-harming for 3 months in the past, it can be really useful to look back on that time to see what you did to cope. Try to work out what was happening that made you feel more able to deal with difficult feelings or situations. You can also look at the coping tips we have and see if they work for you.

Lots of young people begin self-harming again if there’s an unexpected change in their life. It’s important not to blame yourself or feel like you’ve let yourself or others down. Instead, you can accept that this has happened. I want you to know that you don’t have to do any of this alone. The ChildLine counsellors are always here to support you.

You say that you're scared to speak to your GP . This takes a lot of courage, but perhaps you could talk through what you'd like to say with a counsellor. Doctors can find you the support you need so it can be a really important first step for getting help. Lots of doctors understand that you might be scared about telling them something like this, so they are careful to listen and let you speak at your own pace.

Take care,

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