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Hi there,
Discovering a friend might be self-harming can be really worrying and upsetting. It sounds like shes going through a tough time at the moment after being diagnosed with depression and anxiety. And this can be scary for some people especially if theyre struggling to cope with the diagnosis or with their feelings in general. But there are things you can do to help your friend.
Sometimes when people self-harm it's really hard for them to tell people because of all the emotions involved. Often just listening and being there for your friend can be really helpful. Try talking to her at a quiet time away from others and offer your support. But dont be upset if she doesnt want to say anything, as she might not be ready yet.
Its good to support your friend and reassure her that youre there for her when she is ready to talk. You could suggest that she talk to an adult she trusts, like a teacher or family member. If you feel like your friends in danger or youre really worried about them, its okay to tell an adult you trust about whats going on.
Your feelings are really important too and youve done a great thing by contacting me. If you ever feel like you need to talk, you can always chat with a counsellor online or give us a call on 0800 1111. Your friend could do this too. Theres also support for you too from the self-harm message boards.
Thank you for taking the time to write to me.
Take care,
Sam
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