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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
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  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

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Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

Fixed term exclusion

hi sam, i was excluded for a fixed term in yr 10 i am extremly ashamed of what i did as i was verbally hurtfall to a ...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Transgender

i have always preferred being a girl to a boy and love crossdressing, my parents do not like it. They threaten to tak...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

The implant

Hey ive been thinking about getting the implant for quite a while now as i started to have sex when i turned 14 i hav...

Can I get arrested

Basically I don‘t watch porn but one time a few years ago I did because I was curious. I didnt do it again and never ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Being Gay and coming out

Dear Sam, I am an almost 13 year old boy and I am gay. It’s been a big realisation over the past few months and it ha...

Sexual Thoughts

Dear sam, im having sexual thoughts, and i dont know why. Im only 12 and it feels so wrong. Is this normal, it feels ...

Effects of rape

​hello i was raped when i was 9 years old by a girl who was 13 at the time - im a 14 year old boy and i sometimes fee...

Addicted to sex chat rooms

Dear Sam, The last few days I have been using online Chat Rooms for the past few days, and have been going on the sex...

Misscarrige

hi sam i revently had a misscarrige. it wasnt compleately out the blue and i had been told my baby might not survive....

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Family

Since my parents found out I lost my virginity I've had to go to some health clinics because of unprotected sex which...

Condoms for 13 year olds

Hi Sam, Ok so basically i am 14 and my girlfriend is also 14...we both want to have sex and i know its technically il...