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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
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latest letters

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Abortion

Hi sam, I’ve just gone through an abortion and the after feeling is unreal I’m feeling so down and upset about everyt...

Unsafe at school

I no longer feel safe in school, since there is a boy who is perving on girls, he crawls around trying to look up the...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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the way i look

dear sam just because i am 17 and weigh about 13 stone everyone thinks i am fat what can i do

confidence

I am extremley self concious and i constantly feel like everyone is staring at me. when I walk down the road i consta...

I don't know

hi sam, im 13 and recently i have been having really bad problems with the way I look. I just dont like the way I loo...

eating

I have been worrying about my weight a lot I just started to care this year, at school I usually don't eat anything a...

Osgood-Schlatter's Disease

I got diagnosed with OSD on 22/01/15, and I have to wear these leg support things to stop my legs from giving way. Bu...

Im not confident in my self

i have a boyfriend but i hate talking to him! well no i love talking to him but i hate it when i do because i always ...

Help

I'm 10 and people (Mainly Boys) have been saying “with a face like yours you will never be famous" and I want to...

The way I look down there.

I do not like the way my vagina looks . I am 16 and I want to have sex but I'm self conscious . Can u help me ? I rea...

Masterbating

Hi, I am so angry with myself, I am 12 and watching porn and masterbating and I'm feeling ugly and disgusting... I f...

Self Esteem

Umm this is the first time I've ever done this. Hi Sam im 14 and i hate myself. I look at all of my friends and i see...

Out of school

Hi sam, So GCSE exams have finally finished and im now on holliday, but what I thought would be weeks of freedom fro...

Stretching My Ears?

So this might not seem as big of a problem as the other stuff on here, but I really want to stretch my ear lobes. I f...

I'm so ugly it hurts

I suffer from pigmentation mainly on my upper lip, I have tried everything from lightening cream, to home remedies su...

cancer

Hi sam I fill different from all the other kids in school because i had cancer I am ugly and have to wear a hat at sc...

Blr

I am 15 and have spots. t's no big deal to me but everyone keeps taking the mikey and aren't very nice about it sayin...

Hair colour

I desperately want to dye my hair black but does anyone have the power to stop me, if they do, who is it? And why wou...

My Height

I am 12years old and just 7weeks ago I began my secondary school since then I have been becoming more self consious o...

I'm ugly

I hate how ugly I am. My friends are all gorgeous and very skinny and good at p.e and dancing and I cant do anything....

Self esteem

I always feel self conscious about how I look, and my voice. I have a bit of a lisp and people sometimes mimick me ab...

Scared about starting puberty

Hi Sam,My name is BR and everyone in my class has big breast and I have small ones. I'm 12 and I think I might start ...

Me, My body

My weight has always been a touchy subject for me. I come from a strong, catholic Portuguese family, they're loving a...

my boyfriend is transsexual

I have recently found out that my boyfriend is transsexual - as in, he's actually female. I reacted very positively ...