Ask Sam

Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

Ask me a question

You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a Childline counsellor.
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Ask Sam keeps the same confidentualluty promise as Childline. This means that if I feel you're in danger, Childline might tell someone to get you help.
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Latest letters

Royal Navy | Ask Sam

Hi Sam so basically for the past year I've been obsessing over the Royal Navy and it's just been the only thing I was thinking about and I just read the jsp 950 which is basically a...

What am I supposed to do when I’m older? | Ask Sam

Dear Sam I am extremely scared to pick my options at the end of year 8. Because if u pick one and don't like it you can't switch. I'm nervous. And scared and all my emotions are going...

Christian teachings | Ask Sam

Hii! i'm writing this because i'm just really confused, so i am growing up in quite a christian home and town and everyone basically says that sex is bad until you're married or you're...

Inappropriate images | Ask Sam

I need help as I have been very silly and tried sending inappropriate images to someone but it turns out that the person that I sent the image to was a fake account and now they are...

Am I valid in saying I self-harm? | Ask Sam

I feel like by writing this I am being really cringy but I honestly don't care. I have been struggling with my mental health for about 5 years (since I was 9 and my mum died) but about...

Identity crisis | Ask Sam

Myself and my now-ex boyfriend started dating in may but for years now I've always wondered if I was a lesbian. During the confusion, I was openly bisexual. He was super supportive...

I am depressed | Ask Sam

Hi, I’m struggling a lot with my emotions lately. Small mistakes feel huge, and I get overwhelmed very easily. I’ve been dealing with low mood for a long time and it’s becoming really...

Revenge | Ask Sam

Hi Sam, How are you? Do you think it is bad to get revenge on someone if it undoes their bad action.  If someone steals something from you and there is absolutely no way to get it back...
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My mom smacked my butt | Ask Sam

hey i thought I would submit my letter because i have no one else to ask, when i was f14 my mom asked me to step on a scale for her because she said she was worried about my weight,...

My message is about my birth dad | Ask Sam

i don’t like my dad . i was put into care 7yrs ago and my mum has got me back. now my birth dad wants to see me after not seeing me for 6yrs . i pass out every time i see a picture...

separation and losing a loved one | Ask Sam

recently my grandad has passed away and i have really been struggling with it. I feel like it has affected my school life. because it is christmas coming up i’m getting really overwhelmed...

Culture | Ask Sam

I really struggle with embracing my culture. I am a second generation immigrant to Māori parents from Aotearoa ("New Zealand"). I was brought up very British and never got raised in...

I don’t want to move back home | Ask Sam

hi sam, i have a family support worker who attempted to help rebuild healthy relationships in the home with me mum and dad after 2 years of hell at home. my parents were super strict...

Hoarding? | Ask Sam

Dear Sam, As a kid, my room is naturally messy. My parents and family all hate it. I partially hate it too, and I sort of wish it was clean sometimes. Not all the time though. I like...