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Christian teachings | Ask Sam

Hii! i'm writing this because i'm just really confused, so i am growing up in quite a christian home and town and everyone basically says that sex is bad until you're married or you're...

Inappropriate images | Ask Sam

I need help as I have been very silly and tried sending inappropriate images to someone but it turns out that the person that I sent the image to was a fake account and now they are...

Am I valid in saying I self-harm? | Ask Sam

I feel like by writing this I am being really cringy but I honestly don't care. I have been struggling with my mental health for about 5 years (since I was 9 and my mum died) but about...

Identity crisis | Ask Sam

Myself and my now-ex boyfriend started dating in may but for years now I've always wondered if I was a lesbian. During the confusion, I was openly bisexual. He was super supportive...

I am depressed | Ask Sam

Hi, I’m struggling a lot with my emotions lately. Small mistakes feel huge, and I get overwhelmed very easily. I’ve been dealing with low mood for a long time and it’s becoming really...

Revenge | Ask Sam

Hi Sam, How are you? Do you think it is bad to get revenge on someone if it undoes their bad action.  If someone steals something from you and there is absolutely no way to get it back...
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Christian teachings | Ask Sam

Hii! i'm writing this because i'm just really confused, so i am growing up in quite a christian home and town and everyone basically says that sex is bad until you're married or you're...

Feelings about my relationships | Ask Sam

Hey Sam, I'm a 13 turning 14 year old girl, and I've been dating this person for around a year and a half. They're the same age as me and we met in school before I became home schooled,...

How to make more friends | Ask Sam

Dear Sam, I dont know if you are a boy or a girl which doesn't at all matter to me but could u please help me find ideas on how i could make more friends. My parents have just started...

My relationship | Ask Sam

hey, so im in a relationship with this guy 17 yrs old, i am 16 we are online/long distance. we are both confused about what will happen to our relationship when he turns 18, our birthdays...

Toxic friend | Ask Sam

hii I'm wondering if you have any tips or advice on cutting off a toxic friendship? ive tried ignoring her and cutting her off by not interacting with her and have also tried to set...

How do I ask my crush out? | Ask Sam

hi sam i just have a really big crush on this boy but i dont know how to ask him to be my boyfriend. because all his friends might laugh at me and everyone will make fun of me if he...

Idk what to do | Ask Sam

hi sam, i am a 14 year old bisexual girl who has had a crush on a 16 year old girl i play music with for around 5 months. Over this time i feel as though i have fallen in love with...

Feeling alone after a messy breakup | Ask Sam

Hi Sam, My boyfriend was wonderful to me, and I think I took it for granted really. He broke up with me after a 2 year relationship, and then kept talking to me for 2 months, saying...