Hi there,

Spending your first Christmas after someone has died can feel like a big step. It’s natural for it to bring up lots of feelings and it’s okay to need some extra support. It can feel even harder when you’re going through other changes as well.

There’s no right or wrong way to remember someone over Christmas, but it can be good to talk about what’s happening with someone you feel safe with. Sometimes it can help to plan a time in the day when you’ll remember your grandad. You could have a photo up of him, share your favourite memories, or even write him a letter. We’ve got lots of ideas of things you could try.

Whether it’s death or separation, change can be hard. It’s okay to worry about your dad and feel sad about your parents. What’s happening isn’t your fault and how you’re feeling matters a lot.

When change happens, it can help to talk about it. That could be with your mum or dad, or even with a Childline counsellor. Talking about what you want can help to make sure your needs are being met, especially when you’re upset.

Remember, a different Christmas can still be a good one. Whether you’re making new traditions, discovering different ways to keep in touch, or treasuring the memories of people you’ve loved. Take time to think about the things you most want to help make the day the best it can be.

Don’t forget that Childline is here throughout Christmas, so you can get support from us any time.

Take care,

Sam