what is bullying?
Bullying can mean different things:
- being called names
- being teased, put down or humiliated
- being pushed or pulled about
- having money and other stuff taken
- having rumours spread about you
- being ignored and left out
- being hit, kicked or physically hurt
- being threatened or intimidated
- being bullied through your phone or online.
- nobody has the right to bully you
- bullying could be done by friends, family, people at school and strangers – but it’s never ok
- it can happen in different places – like at school, home or online
- there are ways to get it stopped and ways to feel better about yourself.
How to get help
Don’t fight back
You could get in trouble or hurt if you fight back against people involved in bullying. There’s no shame in not fighting back.
Don’t reply to an abusive message
Replying to an abusive message could make the bullying worse. And it could end up upsetting you more.
It's a good idea to save these messages so that you can show them to a teacher or another adult. Check out our tips about staying safe online.
banter or bullying?
If you're being called names or you've fallen out with your friends it might feel like you're stuck or that people are against you. Even if people say it's just banter or jokes, it can still hurt. But things can get better.
Look at our tips for building your confidence and being assertive – these can help you make friends, feel confident and say how you feel. And don't forget you can always contact our trained counsellors for support.
Build your confidence after bullying
Bullying in your sports team?
Not being picked for the team doesn’t always mean you’re being bullied. The coach or team manager often has to pick the strongest side. Some people may have to miss out – but this usually depends on what age or competition level you’re playing at. If you’re feeling left out or upset, try joining a team at a different level so you can take part more.
Some sports are really physical. This means if you get knocked around a bit, it might not be bullying – it could just be a normal part of the sport.
But if people who you play sport with call you names, say nasty things or keep making fun of you, this is bullying. It is not ok. You could try asking an adult for help. If you don’t feel like you could talk to an adult involved in the team, you could talk to a family member or a teacher. Or try contacting us.
Being bullied by a teacher
Your teachers have a duty to look after you. It’s not right if any adult working at your school is being mean to you. You have a right not to be made to feel stupid, be called names or punished unfairly.
Talk to another teacher who you trust and tell them what is happening. Your form teacher or your head of year could be a good person to speak to.
Remember you can always talk to our counsellors if you don't feel you can trust a teacher.