Building confidence and self-esteem

Always putting yourself down? Or feel like you have no confidence anymore? You’re not alone - lots of people feel like this sometimes. But there are loads of ways to boost your confidence and self-esteem with our top tips.

Bring out the best in you

Self-esteem is how you think about yourself. Being confident means being comfortable with how you look and how you feel. And it means feeling good about yourself, your abilities and your thoughts.

Sometimes your confidence can come and go depending on the situation you're in. You might be really outgoing outside of school but be really shy in class. This is completely normal. At school, you’re surrounded by lots of different people and it can be difficult to speak up and be yourself.

Building up your confidence can take time. But we’re here for you. Taking small steps can often lead to a big change. And you don’t have to do it on your own.

5 things you can try:

  1. walk with your head held high
  2. wear a bright colour
  3. do something new
  4. eat healthy food
  5. do exercise.

TIPS TO BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

coping with break-ups

Relationship worries can have a big impact on our confidence. When we really like somebody and they don’t like us back or if a relationship has come to an end, the first thing we might think is, ‘What’s wrong with me?’

You might start to question yourself, the way you look or how you behave. It’s natural to compare yourself to others too. And it definitely doesn't mean that you aren’t, or won’t be liked by somebody else.

People break up for all sorts of reasons. If you stay positive and believe in yourself, somebody else will come along and like you for who you are. Get more advice about relationships.

Getting help if someone's nasty to you

If somebody has said something nasty about the way you look or how you behave, it says more about them than it does about you.

Sometimes when people feel insecure, they try to take attention away from themselves by criticising others. Try contacting our counsellors for support.