Coping with suicidal feelings

Getting support

At night it can sometimes be harder to cope with suicidal feelings, especially when there isn't anyone else around and there's more time to think.

You don't have to go through these feelings alone. Our Childline counsellors are here for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 0800 1111 or start a 1-2-1 chat. If it's an emergency or you need help straight away, call 999.

Sometimes it can take longer to get through to a counsellor at night, take a look at some of the tips on this page while you're waiting to help you cope.

Keep yourself safe

Taking drugs or drinking alcohol makes it hard to think clearly and make good decisions. Alcohol is also a depressant which make suicidal feelings even worse.

If you have any drugs, flush them away. If you have anything that could harm you, get rid of it. It also helps to be with someone instead of being on your own.

6 ways to cope right now

get rid of anything you could use to hurt yourself
use our Art box to express your feelings through words or drawing
write a letter and give it to an adult you trust tomorrow
breathe in time with the calm cloud
listen to music that makes you feel happy or relaxed
look at a photo of someone who really cares about you.

Making a safety plan

It's a great idea to create a safety plan that you can use whenever you're struggling to cope. It can include:

things you can distract yourself with
ways to stay safe
safe places you can go
things that help you calm down or relax
who you can talk to, like a Childline counsellor or safe adult.

You can write your own safety plan or use our mental health first aid kit to help you.

Mental Health First Aid Kit

Things can be overwhelming sometimes, but making a first aid kit can help you to cope when things are tough.

Tips that can help

Relax your body

Focus on 1 thing you’re doing right now. Concentrate on your body, not on your thoughts. You could have a warm bath or just lie down on your bed or the sofa.

You can try:

tensing up all your muscles using all your strength and then slowly relax them
taking deep breaths by breathing in slowly through your nose, and then breathe slowly out through your mouth.

Make a comfort box

Fill your comfort box with all your favourite things. You could have photos of people you care about, inspirational quotes or song lyrics you like, your favourite snacks and gifts from someone you love. Turn to your comfort box when you're struggling.

Imagine

Imagine things are going well and you’re coping. In your mind, picture a favourite place. It could be somewhere real or made-up. Imagine you're there. Create a mental image of yourself coping really well and getting help with what’s going on.

Repeat a positive phrase

Think of a positive phrase which reminds you that you can cope with things.

It should be in the first person (“I” and “me”). And in the present tense (“I am” or “I do” NOT “I will” or “I am going to”)

You could try repeating these positive phrases to yourself:

“I am doing really well”
“I am getting through this”
“I have a lot to give”

Or try making up some of your own. Get more ideas on our message boards.

Exercise

Doing exercise is great for your mental health. It can relax you. And give you more energy. It can also make you feel more confident and help you deal with things.

It’s important to find a type of exercise that’s right for you. Everyone enjoys something different. It could be running, walking, football, skipping, dancing or yoga. You could try a few different things and see what you like.

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Use your senses to cope

Your 5 senses are powerful tools. They can really lift your mood if you’re going through a difficult time or feeling suicidal. Here are some ideas.

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Create a space in your room or diary and fill it with pictures or things that you like - the things you feel good about. You could look at old pictures that bring up good memories. Or watch one of your favourite films. You can also use our Art box to create, save and print your own images.

Hear

Put on the music you love. It could be something soft and soothing. Or it could be loud and exciting. Whatever you’re into. If you're not in the mood for music, try going to a park and just listening to the sound of birds and trees. Focusing on these noises can help block out worrying thoughts.

Smell

Everyone has a few favourite smells. So think about what smells you like and try to enjoy them when you're feeling down or stressed. Take your time to breathe them in. Focus on the smell and try to block out your other thoughts.It could be a certain perfume or shampoo. Or maybe it's food, like oranges, toast or chocolate.

Taste

Have your favourite meal. Or you could eat something you used to love, but haven’t had in a while. Try different flavours and textures. And don't forget to try eating healthy food as this can affect your mood. Check out our advice on staying healthy.

Touch

Touching different things can make you feel a connection with the world around you. And can also take your mind off worrying thoughts. Run your tongue around your mouth and feel the different surfaces. Gently touch walls in your school or home. Feel the zip or buttons on a jacket. Have a bath. Stroke your pet. Give yourself a hand massage or feel the texture of each of your fingernails. Exercise or lift weights. Go for a walk or run.

Try tracking your mood

Go to your locker to track your mood and record when you've used these different senses. This can help you work out what things make you feel better or worse.

Talking to someone

Talking to someone about how you feel is a really important part of getting help. It means you don’t have to deal with everything on your own.

But it’s not always easy to do. Describing how you feel can feel really scary.

Try our tips to make it easier to talk:

plan and prepare what you want to say
write down what you want to say and practise saying it
think about the main things you want to get out of talking to someone
ask yourself if you want advice, or if you just want to say how you’re feeling
try talking when the person isn’t busy or about to rush off.

Keeping the conversation going

It’s good to talk about a problem. But what if you told someone and it didn’t help?

Talking about an issue is often a process. It’s not just something you do once.

Telling someone how you feel might make you feel bad at first. But after a few times of talking about it, you could start to feel differently.

And it doesn’t have to be new information either. Sometimes talking about the same things again and again can help you understand what you’re going through.

So remember, if you told someone how you feel but it didn’t help – keep trying. And think of other people you trust who might be able to help.

Who you can talk to

Asking an adult for help

If you have a problem you can’t fix on your own, it’s a good idea to ask an adult you trust for help. They could help you see your problem differently. They might have been through something similar themselves. Or have ideas on how to cope with things.

Seeing your doctor

If you feel suicidal, seeing a doctor can really help. Doctors shouldn’t judge you and they should keep what you've told them private, unless they think you're in serious danger. They can help you find ways to cope and give you advice about types of treatment.

You can talk to us about anything

Whatever you say will be just between you and Childline. And you can feel safe talking to us, knowing that no one else will find out.

Read more about our confidentiality promise.

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