Sex

It's normal to have lots of questions about sex. Whether you've had sex or not, it's important to find out about contraception and consent so you can make decisions that feel right for you.

Talking about sex

It can sometimes feel awkward talking about sex.

You might feel worried about being judged for having sex or not. Or feel silly for not knowing something.

Everyone has questions about sex. And you should always be able to ask about sex without being embarrassed.

If you're unsure about sex, consent or how to get support, we've got advice for you.

6 facts about consent

  • Consent means saying yes without feeling pressured or scared.
  • You can't give consent if you're not sober.
  • Saying yes once doesn't mean you give consent in the future.
  • Consent applies to anything sexual, not just full sex.
  • Someone should always ask for consent, even in a relationship.
  • You can withdraw your consent at any time – you can change your mind.

Knowing when you're ready

You might be worried about being left out, not being seen as mature or like you need to have sex to prove that you care about someone. Or people around you might be making you feel like you should have sex.

The only person who can decide if you're ready is you. If you're thinking about having sex, you should ask yourself:

  • do I have contraception and know about safe sex?
  • can I talk to my partner about having sex?
  • do I feel comfortable with having sex?
  • will my partner support me if I don't have sex?
  • will I feel less mature if I don't have sex?

If you answer no to any of those questions, you may not be ready to have sex. You should never feel pressured into doing something sexual until you're ready and your should not put yourself at risk.

Consent explained Ft. Jack Howard

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Preparing to have sex

Sex can feel different depending on who you're with. Lots of people have an emotional connection with the person they're with as well as a physical attraction.

Whether it's your first time having sex or you've had it before, it's important to feel comfortable before you do anything.

Try our tips to feel more comfortable:

Masturbation

Masturbation is when you touch your body and your genitals because it feels good or pleasurable. Both girls and boys masturbate and it's completely natural. 

If you want to know more – check out the information on our facts about puberty page.