As a girl, when walking to school or going out alone, I am really cautious about the people around me. I always think someone is following me and I would be easily kidnapped because I am not physically strong enough to defend myself if I ever need to. Everyday is a fear, I feel like every time I go out is a risk. I know this rarely happens in UK, but the fear associated with being in possible danger just makes me scare. Especially in winter when is dark at 4 pm.
I am especially alert when a single man walk past or behind me. I just associate them with bad intentions. I know it is important to protect myself so some caution is needed. Which makes it hard to relax , I know very well that not all men have bad intentions but is really affecting me. I am still a child with adults going out with me , but eventually there will be one day I am no longer a child and need to live alone and go out alone. If I am constantly scared, I cannot live a normal life.
Sam
Hi there,
Anxiety and fear are completely natural emotions. They’re there to help keep us safe and can make our bodies feel ready to ready if something goes wrong. When these feelings are starting to affect whether you can live your life though, it’s important to get support.
There are lots of reasons people can feel scared walking outside, especially when it’s dark or you’re alone. Only focusing on what might happen can make you to feel powerless, but taking time to plan for your own safety can help you feel more in control.
There are small things you can do to help you be safer when you’re out on your own. This could include carrying a small panic alarm, making sure someone knows where you are, carrying a torch or flashlight, or even learning how to walk with confidence. Only having one earbud in if you’re listening to music and making sure you know where you’re going can also help you be more alert to what’s going on around you.
Trying to overcome your fears alone can be hard, and it’s good to talk about how you’re feeling with someone you trust. Having someone to support you can help you take small steps to practice going out alone or being in situations that make you nervous. A good way to start can be going for a short walk with someone, then trying to do it alone. You can then build up your confidence over time.
Whatever’s happening, we’re here to support you. You can get help from the Childline counsellors any time, it might also help to share tips and ideas on the message boards with other young people.
Take care,
Sam
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