Coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings

Many people have suicidal feelings at some point. You could feel alone and it might be hard to know what to do. But we can help you find ways to cope. Things might not change straight away. But you can start to feel better.

This page is also available in Welsh.

Getting support

It’s really important to speak to someone if you feel suicidal or you’re worried you'll harm yourself.

You can call 0800 1111 to talk to a Childline counsellor at any time. They're there to help you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If it’s an emergency or you need help straight away, call 999.

Keep yourself safe

Taking drugs or drinking alcohol makes it hard to think clearly and make good decisions. Alcohol is also a depressant which make suicidal feelings even worse.

If you have any drugs, flush them away. If you have anything that could harm you, get rid of it. It also helps to be with someone instead of being on your own.

5 things you can do

  1. hobbies or stuff you enjoy like listening to music (not something that could make things worse like drugs and alcohol)
  2. physical activity like sports, dancing, jogging or yoga
  3. talking to someone you trust or to others on our message boards
  4. something that give you a sense of achievement, like drawing or doing a puzzle
  5. look at a photo of someone who really cares about you.

Making a safety plan

A safety plan tells you what you should do when you’re struggling to cope. It can include:

  • ways you can keep yourself safe
  • a safe place you can go
  • things you can distract yourself with
  • ideas to help you calm down or relax
  • who you can talk to, like a Childline counsellor or adult you trust.

You can write a safety plan yourself, or use our mental health first aid kit to help you create one.

Tips that can help

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Get ideas on our message boards

Use your senses to cope

Your 5 senses are powerful tools. They can really lift your mood if you’re going through a difficult time or feeling suicidal. Here are some ideas.

Talking to someone

Talking to someone about how you feel is a really important part of getting help. It means you don’t have to deal with everything on your own. 

But it’s not always easy to do. Describing how you feel can feel really scary.

Try our tips to make it easier to talk:

  • plan and prepare what you want to say
  • write down what you want to say and practise saying it
  • think about the main things you want to get out of talking to someone
  • ask yourself if you want advice, or if you just want to say how you’re feeling
  • try talking when the person isn’t busy or about to rush off.

Keeping the conversation going

It’s good to talk about a problem. But what if you told someone and it didn’t help?

Talking about an issue is often a process. It’s not just something you do once.

Telling someone how you feel might make you feel bad at first. But after a few times of talking about it, you could start to feel differently.

And it doesn’t have to be new information either. Sometimes talking about the same things again and again can help you understand what you’re going through.

So remember, if you told someone how you feel but it didn’t help – keep trying. And think of other people you trust who might be able to help.

You can talk to us about anything

Whatever you say will be just between you and Childline. And you can feel safe talking to us, knowing that no one else will find out.

Read more about our confidentiality promise.

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