Describing gender and sexuality
There are lots of types of sexuality and its okay if you don’t fit into just one. For some people, their sexuality is fluid and can change over time.
It’s important to remember that nobody can define your sexuality except you. Even when you use the same word as someone else, it might not always mean the same thing, and that’s okay.
Gender and Sexuality definitions
Aromantic or aro
Someone who has little or no romantic attraction to other people, or who doesn’t have the desire to have a romantic relationship.
Ace or asexual
Someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction to other people.
People who don’t see themselves as either heterosexual or gay, but may also sometimes be curious about the gender they're not normally attracted to.
Bi or bisexual
Someone who is emotionally and physically attracted to more than one gender.
Cisgender or cis
This is a way of describing someone who’s gender identity is the same as the sex that was recoded on their birth certificate. For example someone might be cis-female.
Someone who doesn’t feel any romantic attraction unless they have a strong emotional connection with someone first.
Someone who doesn’t have any sexual attraction unless they have a strong emotional connection with someone first.
Someone who is romantically and sexually attracted to people of the same gender.
Being gender fluid is when someone’s gender identity changes over time. Even if someone’s gender identity changes, the way they express their gender might not.
A gender fluid person’s gender identity might change a lot, or it might change over a long period of time.
Someone who doesn’t experience feel romantic attraction very often, or doesn’t experience strong romantic attraction to other people.
Someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction very often, or who doesn’t have strong feelings of sexual attraction.
Heterosexual or straight
Feeling emotionally and physically attracted to people of the opposite gender.
Feeling emotionally and physically attracted to someone of the same gender.
Someone who mostly identifies as gay or homosexual, but who is sometimes attracted to someone of a different gender.
Girls who are emotionally and physically attracted to someone of the same gender.
LGBTQ+ stands for lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer/questioning and more. Even though people refer to them together, gender identity isn’t the same as sexuality.
People who experience a romantic or emotional attraction that is different from their sexual attraction. For example, someone may feel emotionally attracted to girls but sexually attracted to boys.
Being non-binary is when someone’s gender identity doesn’t match being only male or female.
Someone who’s non-binary can identify with parts of being male, female or both. Or they might not identify with either.
Someone who is sexually attracted to someone else regardless of their gender.
Someone who experiences romantic attraction towards someone else regardless of their gender.
Polyamory (or poly)
Someone who can have multiple romantic relationships at the same time. People in polyamorous relationships are all aware of each other and consent to any new relationships that start.
Someone who is romantically and sexually attracted to some genders, but not all.
Some LGBTQ+ people use queer to describe not fitting into other labels or sexualities, or feel more comfortable using it to describe themselves. Some LGBTQ+ people also use it to describe the community as a whole.
Queer has been used as an insult or slur against LGBTQ+ people, which is a form of bullying and discrimination. Because of this, some people don’t like to use the term at all.
This describes someone who is going through the process of understanding their sexuality, or who’s unsure about it.
This includes whether you’d want to have a romantic or intimate relationship with someone.
This is how physically attracted to someone you are, and whether you want to have sexual contact with someone.
Trans or transgender
This is a way of describing someone who’s gender identity is different from the sex that was recorded at birth.