Self-harm over summer

Everyone is different, so how you feel about your self-harm and any scars might not be the same as other people. Remember, you don’t have to have it all figured out.

Whether you’re comfortable with people seeing your scars or if it feels better covering up can also change from day-to-day, so it can help to think about what feels most comfortable.

Sometimes wearing clothes that might reveal any scars could feel like too much, but that doesn’t mean it will all the time. It might help to try wearing clothes that are better for the heat when you’re with someone who already knows or you’re less worried about them.

All you can do is you’re best, and that’s okay. Remember, covering up doesn’t mean you have to keep your self-harm secret. Whether you’re ready to speak to people in your life or not, we’re here for you.

Looser and lighter clothes can help you to feel more comfortable if you are going to wear longer sleeves, skirts, or trousers. Fabrics like cotton and linen can breathe more easily and help you to feel cooler.

It can take time to work out what’s right for you, and how you feel can change over time. If you are covering up during the heat, remember to keep yourself hydrated by having plenty of water.

Most people won’t make any comments or even notice your scars, but it can often feel like they will. If you think someone might ask about them it can help to plan what you’d say back.

There are lots of ways to respond to questions. You might want to say it’s personal or be honest about whether it’s something you want to talk about.

If someone you trust or who cares about you asks or notices, it might help to think about ways to be honest about what’s been happening. Sharing what’s happening with someone you trust can even make it easier to have your scars be visible around them. We’ve got lots of advice on starting that kind of conversation.

You might not always know what to say, and that’s natural. If you’re struggling for ideas or you just want to chat to people going through the same thing, try asking on the message boards.

There can be times when you won’t be able to cover your self-harm or scars without it seeming odd or people asking questions.

Sometimes it can help to prepare before the event. Talking to an adult you trust or who takes care of you about what’s happening can help you to stay in control. They can support you with what’s happening, help you stop feeling isolated and give you alternatives to different activities.

If you’re struggling to start conversations about your self-harm, we’re here to help.

Many scars can change and fade over time, it can also take time to feel comfortable yourself with them.

If you want support with your scars, it can help to talk to your GP about them. They can give you advice about what you can do and any treatments that might help. Your doctor can also help you to get support with your self-harm to help you cope in the future.