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discrimination against my disability


I don't know if you can help me with my "disability" as it isn't autism or anything like that, I have a medical condition which is undergoing investigation, my school haven't supported me although we have provided them with hospital letters. I feel I have been discriminated as I am well enough to go to my lessons but am being restricted from doing so. Not only have I been isolated away from everyone I undergo mental health issues and cant deal with stress which is piling up in my head and making me feel mentally drained. I have GCSE's next year and I am missing out on so much education which it vital for me to know. I just want to go lessons and feel normal again, I feel selfless and I want to begin to blend in again as being in a wheelchair with my condition has brought down my self esteem and made me feel insecure. I don't know what to do I just want help.

Thank you.

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Hi there

Having a disability can sometimes affect your self-esteem and make it harder to feel motivated, especially when you’re not getting the right help and support to carry on with day to day tasks.

Sometimes it can make learning or going to school difficult but you have the same rights as anyone else, including the right to continue with your education and to access any services that you need.

Having a diagnosis can often help you to get the right help and support. You shouldn’t be discriminated against because of your disability. While you’re getting tests or seeing a doctor for your diagnosis your school should support you with your education as much as possible, including when you’re not able to go to school.

If your disability means that you need to be at home or in a hospital or psychiatric ward you should still be given school work to do and support to complete it. When you can go to school but can't manage all of the lessons you may be able to attend part time instead.

If you’re not sure what you can't manage or you disagree with your school's decision you can get advice from your doctor and your school's special education needs worker.

Being discriminated against because of your disability is illegal and your rights are protected by a law called the Disability Act. If you think that you’re experiencing discrimination at school you can report it to your head teacher or to your Local Authority. You can also get support and information from Citizens advice.

Spending a lot of time alone can make you feel sad or upset and it can help to keep in touch with your friends, to talk to someone you trust like a parent, carer, or Childline counsellor. You could also post on the message boards to talk to other young people. Try to keep to a routine and get up and go to bed at the same time if you’re not at school so that your day has some structure.

Learning to cope with stress can help you when you feel under pressure. Try to notice things around you and count how many things you can see then how many things you can hear. Giving your attention to something else can distract you from feeling anxious or overwhelmed and help you to feel calmer and more in control.

Thank you for writing to me, I hope this advice has helped.

Take care,


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